Parenting can be a tricky journey, and I like to think I do a decent job. I nurture my children with love, prepare nutritious meals, keep our home tidy, and teach them to be kind and considerate of others. Above all, I emphasize that they can pursue their passions and identities freely, and that my love for them is unconditional—this is how parenting should be, right? Apparently, not everyone agrees.
There was a time when I let my son wear pink and step out in public, simply because he loved the color and it made him feel happy. Seeing him comfortable in his own skin brought me joy. Yet, I was met with harsh criticism. “Why are you dressing him like a girl?” “Do you want him to be confused?” “People will make fun of him!” The backlash was overwhelming, but it made me wonder: who are the real culprits in this scenario? It’s not parents like me who encourage self-expression; it’s those who impose their narrow views on children that cause harm.
I’ve experienced this firsthand. My father had dreams for me that didn’t align with my own. I was told to keep quiet and suppress my true self out of fear of embarrassment or punishment. This led to years of bullying and internal struggles that I still grapple with today. I developed serious issues—like a personality disorder and body image struggles—because I felt I had to live a life that wasn’t mine.
As a parent, I’ve made a commitment to let my children express themselves freely. My son enjoys painting his nails and experimenting with makeup, and if he wants to push a stroller, so be it—one day, he might be a father himself. Recently, he was invited to a themed party and wanted to go as a fairy. He wouldn’t mock another child for their choices; instead, he’d embrace them because I’ve taught him that expression comes in many forms.
This year, he even requested two birthday parties—one where he could be himself, and another where he felt he had to pretend to fit in with societal expectations. It broke my heart to see him feel pressured to conform. No child should have to navigate such complex decisions at a young age simply because someone has told them, “boys don’t act like that.” While he’s under my roof, he can be whoever he wants to be, and no one will change that.
To the parents who teach their kids to mock others or foster hate: you’re the problem. Children aren’t born with prejudices; they learn them from us. I refuse to pass that burden onto my children, especially when I know the pain it can cause from personal experience. Why would anyone want to subject their child to that?
Encourage your children to embrace their uniqueness. Be their biggest supporter, even if it makes you a bit uncomfortable. They need your unwavering support more than anything. After all, if they can’t count on you, who can they rely on?
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In summary, it’s essential for parents to allow their children to express themselves freely and to embrace their individuality. The pressure to conform can have lasting psychological effects, so let’s celebrate our children for who they truly are.