I recently picked up my son, Jake, from his basketball practice when he climbed into the car and expressed, “I think I really need to lift weights. My arms look too skinny.”
Glancing at him through the rear-view mirror, I noticed the discontent on his face. “Your arms are just fine. Did someone say something, or is this how you feel?”
“No, they just seem so small. I can’t stand it.” It was clear he was fighting back tears as he pulled at his sleeves, trying to make them look fuller.
Perhaps someone had indeed said something, or maybe he was measuring himself against his teammates—a habit many young people fall into. It’s unfortunate how easily the thought “I’m different, so I’m less than” takes root in young minds.
I’ve overheard comments about Jake’s physique: “Does he eat enough?” “He’s too skinny.” While meant to be light-hearted, these remarks are anything but harmless.
The inconsistency in how society discusses body sizes is troubling. Why is it acceptable to tell someone, “You need to eat more”? It should be just as offensive as suggesting someone larger skip dessert. I would never consider telling a plus-sized individual to limit their food intake, so why is it seen as permissible to comment on my son’s slender build?
It’s baffling how society often views comments about thinness as compliments. Suggesting that a woman needs to indulge in a large pizza is not a funny joke; it’s a mean-spirited remark that should not be tolerated.
Can we agree that making comments about anyone’s body is unacceptable? This is particularly detrimental to young people who are still finding their confidence. We’ve all faced these pressures—ask any adult.
Some may view my perspective as overly serious, but I stand firm. The principle that no one should be mocked for their size applies universally. Yet, there’s a glaring double standard when it comes to shaming those who are thin. It’s often seen as acceptable to poke fun at these individuals, expecting them to take it lightly. I reject that notion.
When remarks are made about Jake’s body because he’s thin, it’s akin to criticizing someone for their weight. The underlying suggestion that being slim means one is starving is a harmful mindset that needs to end. Many individuals are naturally slim regardless of their diet, while others may choose a lifestyle that promotes health for their mental well-being.
Phrases like “Real men should be muscular” or “He needs to eat a cheeseburger” need to disappear. The essence of being a “real man” has nothing to do with body size.
True individuals recognize their value, regardless of their shape. They enjoy food, exercise, are naturally lean, or have a fuller figure, and most importantly, they uplift one another.
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In summary, body shaming—whether for being too thin or too heavy—needs to be addressed. Everyone deserves respect and kindness, regardless of size. Let’s celebrate our differences and encourage one another in our journeys of self-acceptance.