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4 Indicators That Couples Therapy Might Be Beneficial
It’s common for couples to wait until a significant crisis arises before seeking help. However, if you notice any of these subtle warning signs, it might be time to consider talking to a therapist.
By Taylor M. Brooks
Updated: Feb. 20, 2024
Originally Published: March 10, 2022
Image Source: Delmaine Donson/E+/Getty Images
When you have children together, it’s a testament to your love for one another. Yet, nothing can test your time, patience, and positivity quite like parenting—especially as it stretches on for decades. If you want to maintain a strong relationship, exploring couples counseling could be a wise step.
Taking care of your relationship isn’t a drastic measure. Think of it like a high-speed race car; if you don’t take a pit stop, you’ll eventually break down. Delaying this could lead to more significant issues down the line.
Several factors can deter couples from seeking help. The first hurdle is the uncomfortable moment when one partner suggests, “Maybe we should talk to someone.” (And don’t worry; by the time your kids hit high school, many of your couple friends will have taken this step.) Next, there’s the challenge of finding a suitable expert, which has become easier with the rise of virtual counseling. Finally, the cost can be a concern; however, investing in help is often more affordable than separating.
Assuming there hasn’t been a clear breaking point—like a threat to leave or infidelity—what are some signs that your relationship might need some upkeep?
- Your Intimacy Is Fading
While it’s easy to attribute a decrease in intimacy to your kids, licensed psychotherapist Mia Thompson notes that this can happen in child-free couples as well. “Intimacy is a form of communication,” she explains, and communication can deteriorate in any relationship over time. A therapist can help uncover any underlying resentments or fears that might be impacting your connection. - Conversations Have Dwindled
You don’t have to be arguing to require guidance. Often, couples find themselves stuck in routine discussions about chores or meals, neglecting deeper conversations. A skilled therapist can help break this cycle, creating a safe environment for each partner to express frustrations or desires without fear. - Recurring Conflicts
If you find yourself rehashing the same arguments, it often signifies unresolved issues related to shame, anger, or insecurity. A therapist can assist in understanding that these conflicts often stem from deeper disappointments, guiding you toward resolution. - Emotional Distance
If you find yourself seeking emotional support elsewhere—like confiding in someone who excites you—take a moment to reflect on your relationship. This could indicate a disconnect that couples counseling might help address.
In summary, while maintaining a relationship requires effort, this doesn’t have to feel daunting. Recognizing when to seek help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Cheers to navigating the complexities of partnership!
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Summary: This article discusses key signs that may indicate a couple should consider therapy, emphasizing the importance of communication and intimacy in maintaining a healthy relationship. It highlights common issues such as fading intimacy, lack of meaningful conversations, recurring arguments, and emotional distance, suggesting that seeking professional help can provide valuable support.