In a recent conversation, I heard a young girl mention, “My mother said I could engage in any sport, but cheerleading was off the table. She believed I shouldn’t support the boys.” As a feminist, I understood her perspective; however, as a former cheerleader, I found myself conflicted. This led me to reflect on my own daughter’s potential involvement in cheerleading and whether I would support her decision. The answer was unequivocal: Absolutely, yes.
As both a feminist and a former cheerleader, I am well aware of the ongoing discussion surrounding this topic. During my high school years, I often felt embarrassed by my participation in cheerleading. I pleaded with my father not to disclose it to my then-boyfriend (now spouse), concealed it from my college friends, and attempted to erase any evidence of that phase of my life. I didn’t fit the stereotype of a cheerleader; I wasn’t bubbly, lacked enthusiasm for school spirit, and, being a feminist, I felt uneasy cheering for male athletes.
Despite my inner turmoil, I recognized that cheerleading provided a necessary extracurricular activity that would enhance my college prospects, especially as my best friend was the captain. Plus, I was able to enjoy the physicality of the practice.
As I delved deeper into women’s studies in college, I grappled with the question: Can one be both a feminist and a cheerleader? The answer is a resounding yes. Cheerleading is indeed a sport that requires physical strength, teamwork, and discipline, much like any other athletic endeavor. It’s essential to challenge the narrow definitions of feminism and recognize that enjoying traditionally feminine activities does not negate one’s commitment to gender equality. For instance, appreciating the color pink or indulging in beauty treatments does not diminish one’s advocacy for women’s rights.
Feminism is diverse, and individuals can embody various interests and appearances while striving for the same goals. One can appreciate a spa day while advocating for equal wages. It’s crucial to remember that personal expression does not define one’s core values. As RuPaul famously stated, “We are born naked, and the rest is just drag.”
The freedom to choose our interests and hobbies as a form of self-expression is a privilege, but our true selves are what matter most. It’s essential to uplift and support those around us. Although I once felt shame about my cheerleading past, I now appreciate the value of encouraging others, being part of a team, and yes, even enjoying the cheerleading uniform.
One aspect that still challenges me is the perception that cheerleaders exist solely to support male athletes. However, I’ve come to view sports as arbitrary constructs. If extraterrestrials were to observe football, they might find it peculiar that humans engage in such competitive behavior over a ball. At least cheerleaders offer coordinated routines and entertaining performances.
Furthermore, there exists an unspoken hierarchy within sports. For example, field hockey players often dismiss cheerleaders as not being engaged in a “real” sport. I have even expressed reluctance to allow my son to play hockey because of preconceived notions about athletes in that sport. At a recent gathering, a teacher shared her dismay that a promising student was pursuing cheerleading, as if it were a detrimental choice. When she inquired if any attendees had been cheerleaders, I decided to embrace my past instead of hiding from it. Upon revealing my cheerleading history, I could sense her regret; she likely did not intend to offend.
I understand the biases that exist in our society. Intelligence does not correlate with being a cheerleader, and traditional gender norms should be challenged. It’s time to embrace the multifaceted nature of individuals—whether they are cheerleaders, athletes, or those who enjoy baking. It took me years to shed the embarrassment regarding my past, which should be a source of pride rather than shame. My cheerleading experience has played a role in shaping who I am today, and I am thankful for it.
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In summary, the question of whether to allow our daughters to become cheerleaders extends beyond traditional views. It’s essential to recognize that cheerleading can be empowering and enjoyable while also promoting the values of teamwork and encouragement. Embracing our experiences can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and support for others.