The pandemic has taken a toll on my libido. Whether it’s the constant presence of my kids or the endless cycle of cleaning, my energy is depleted. After nearly a year of juggling virtual schooling and remote work, sex feels like the last thing on my mind. To reignite my desires, I’ve turned to romance novels as a delightful escape.
These are undeniably stressful times, and pandemic-related anxiety has affected every aspect of my life, including my intimate moments. Stress and good sex don’t mix well; when I’m anxious, I find myself reaching for snacks rather than seeking intimacy.
My partner, Tom, thrives on physical affection, and sex is essential for him to feel connected. Our drives couldn’t be more different. A simple gesture like bending down to pick something up can send him into overdrive. And while Tom is incredibly attractive—his strong build and charming smile often make me want to leap into his arms—these days, I need a little extra motivation to feel amorous. My dwindling libido isn’t a reflection of him, but rather the overwhelming circumstances we’re navigating.
Finding intimacy in a household that resembles a continuous circus is challenging. With no date nights and shifting responsibilities, our connection often takes a backseat. Plus, I just don’t feel sexy—I’ve gained some weight, spend most of my days in sweatpants, and feel constantly surrounded by my kids, which leaves me drained.
Foreplay might help, but finding a moment alone seems impossible. We share sweet kisses and tender moments throughout the day, yet once night falls, I’m often too exhausted to engage.
Unfortunately, the spark has dimmed in our home. But I genuinely enjoy being intimate with Tom. When we do manage to connect, it feels incredible, melting away my stress. So what’s my solution? Romance novels!
As an avid reader, escaping into a captivating book has been my favorite way to unwind. I used to dismiss romance novels as mere fluff, but I’ve learned they offer a fantastic escape from the monotony of daily life. A few chapters can reignite my desire and keep me awake long enough for Tom to join me in bed.
If you think romance novels aren’t for you, I urge you to reconsider. The genre is vast, with something for every reader—be it sci-fi, historical, mystery, BDSM, erotica, or romantic comedy. Whatever fantasies you have, there’s likely a book that caters to your interests.
If historical romance is your jam, try the “Outlander” series by Diana Gabaldon, which beautifully blends romance, adventure, and time travel. The “Bridgerton” series is equally steamy, just like the hit Netflix show. For those intrigued by blue aliens and abduction scenarios, Evangeline Anderson’s “Brides of The Kindred” series is a fan favorite.
If you want to explore BDSM further than the “Fifty Shades Trilogy,” give Ella Ardent’s “The Plume Book” series a try. Or perhaps you prefer contemporary romance; check out Alisha Rai’s “Modern Love” series, which navigates love in our digital age.
It’s important to note that sexual ruts can happen outside of a pandemic. Every long-term relationship faces its ups and downs. Romance novels may just be the spark you need to reignite the flame in your bedroom. But be warned—once you start, you might not want to stop!
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In summary, romance novels have become a vital tool for rekindling my sex drive amid the challenges of the pandemic. They provide an escape and a source of inspiration that fuels my connection with my partner. Whether you’re in a rut or just seeking a way to spice things up, diving into a good book could be exactly what you need.