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There was a phase when my partner thought that giving me a card on Valentine’s Day was optional. She quickly learned otherwise and adjusted her approach. To be fair, we were just starting our relationship. Since then, she has never missed a chance to surprise me with a card.
I’ve had my own missteps, like when I hesitated to leave our young son with a babysitter so we could enjoy a date night. A few years later, when our twins came along, I was just as reluctant to leave them behind, even for the sake of our bond. After all, we’d likely spend our time out talking about the kids, which isn’t the most romantic topic.
Realizing we needed to prioritize our romantic life, we established some guidelines to ensure our relationship remained strong amid the chaos of family life. Let’s face it: prioritizing your partner over the kids can be challenging, but it’s essential. For my partner and me, being romantic is about making small, thoughtful efforts that yield great rewards. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; sometimes all it takes is turning off the distractions, sitting close together, and having a real conversation. When was the last time you did that?
We use a shared calendar on our phones. Although my partner doesn’t check it often, when I send her reminders like “Don’t forget our date this weekend,” she often responds with surprise, “We do?” This allows us to enjoy time away from the kids without distraction. Luckily, we live near the beach, so after dinner, we might take a stroll along the shore.
As relationship coach Linda Carson notes, “While memorable gifts and trips are lovely, it’s the consistent small acts of kindness that build a trusting and healthy relationship.” So, make that thoughtful gesture and enjoy a relaxing walk afterward.
Sundays are particularly special for us, as it’s the day we mostly unplug from work and school. Occasionally, I’ll treat my partner to her favorite curry from a local Indian restaurant. I’m not a big fan of Indian food, but ordering it for her is a gesture that shows appreciation, reminding her of her importance in my life. Yes, food is a recurring theme here, but at the core of it is my commitment to putting her needs first.
When we began dating, we met online, which was quite common at the time. We exchanged emails for a month before meeting in person. A simple note in your partner’s car can go a long way—something like, “Have a great day” or “I love you.” Keep it simple and heartfelt; it’s a way to remind your partner that they are still on your mind.
Flowers also work wonders. I sometimes surprise my partner with a bouquet sent to her office, which always brings her joy. Everyone loves feeling special at work, and it doesn’t have to be flowers—it could be any small gift delivered to show you care.
If you ever find yourself at a loss for how to be romantic—perhaps due to busy schedules or the feeling that your partner has everything they need—consider this simple yet effective idea: sleep without clothes. It’s a delightful surprise to find your partner waiting for you in bed, and it creates an intimate moment for connection and conversation.
Ultimately, being romantic is about making time for your loved one and being thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be elaborate; sometimes, the simplest gestures that show you see and care for your partner can have the most profound impact on your relationship.
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