Parenting
As children grow older, parents often find that they can reclaim some of the simple pleasures of life that were once overshadowed by the demands of parenthood.
Picture this: you’re driving, and a nostalgic song comes on the radio — it’s just the mood lifter you needed. But then, your kids start bickering in the backseat, ruining the moment. This recently happened to me with my trio of tweens. After a lengthy shopping trip at Target, where I’d treated them to some delightful finds in the Dollar Spot, I was craving a moment of peace to enjoy Phil Collins’s “Against All Odds.” However, the chorus of complaints about how “old-fashioned” the song was truly tested my patience. I had just endured hours of indecision over toys, and I wanted just three minutes of musical bliss.
In the past, when my kids were younger, I would have easily distracted them with stories or songs of my own, thinking I could revisit my own music later. But now, they’re old enough to understand that sometimes, mom needs a moment to herself. They can respect my space for three minutes.
As they mature, my children are learning that nice things are not solely theirs to claim. I’ve begun to reclaim my little luxuries, and my resolve is strong.
Enjoying Nice Food Again
When it comes to treats, I no longer feel the need to hide my chocolate in obscure places, only to forget about it. With my kids now able to read, a simple note reminding them to steer clear does the trick. The days of “What’s mine is yours” are over; they know that certain things are off-limits, and I’ve embraced my right to indulge.
Wearing Nice Clothes
Gone are the days of wearing clothing that doubles as a napkin. I’ve retired from being a human Kleenex, and my wardrobe has been upgraded. I take pride in dressing nicely now that I’m not chasing toddlers. While my daughter does borrow some of my outfits, she knows to ask first and that some items are strictly off-limits. Teaching kids to respect boundaries and value belongings is crucial.
Reclaiming Your Phone
In the past, I often handed over my phone to stave off meltdowns or to occupy my children while I took a moment of peace. Now, however, my phone is a valuable work tool, and my kids have their own devices. They understand that it’s not a toy for them to play with anymore.
Enjoying Long Showers
I’ve also returned to enjoying long, hot showers without interruption. My children now know that when I’m behind closed doors, it’s my time, and they should only interrupt for emergencies. After years of rushing through showers while making sure they weren’t getting into trouble, I finally have the luxury of a peaceful moment to myself.
A Cleaner Home
As my children grow, they’ve also learned to take responsibility for their messes. They can clean up after themselves, do their laundry, and even tackle the dishes. I no longer have to remind them constantly about cleaning up; they understand that it’s part of growing up.
While you might currently feel overwhelmed by the chaos of raising young children and think, “We literally cannot have nice things,” take heart. This phase won’t last forever. The years filled with broken items and chocolate thefts will be replaced by moments of respect for your belongings. Soon, you’ll find yourself enjoying the return of nice things in life.
As your children mature, they’ll learn how to appreciate and respect not only their belongings but yours too. It’s a vital life lesson, and it’s incredibly rewarding when that favorite song comes on, allowing you to lose yourself in the music once again.
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Summary
As children grow, parents can start to reclaim life’s little luxuries, from enjoying their favorite foods and wearing nice clothes to having uninterrupted showers and cleaner homes. The chaos of early parenthood gives way to a more respectful dynamic where children understand the value of personal belongings. Reclaiming these simple pleasures is not just about material things; it’s about enjoying the moments that make life fulfilling.