By: Mark Thompson
Updated: Dec. 18, 2015
Originally Published: Aug. 8, 2015
As a father of three daughters, I’ve discovered that this delightful reality comes with its own unique set of challenges. Along with the immense joy they bring, I’ve also learned that my hair has vanished, my opinions are often disregarded, and I’m on the hook for three college educations and maybe even three weddings. Retirement? Not in the cards for me.
However, the journey has taught me valuable lessons that I’m eager to share with younger dads. Let’s start with a simple truth: regardless of your academic achievements, as a man, your understanding is often minimal. Your role is to be the guy who hangs around the house, makes ill-timed jokes, doles out cash, and occasionally changes light bulbs. The expectations? Pretty low.
Embrace this reality! Your job as a dad is to not fully comprehend the chaos and to maintain a lighthearted demeanor. Here’s how to leverage that to your advantage.
Start Early
When my youngest was five, she posed the infamous question, “How are baby pigs made?” With a cheeky grin, I replied, “Well, baby pigs are just a product of the Oscar Mayer factory, which is why bacon is so delicious.” She was not impressed.
Brace Yourself for Math
As they progress through school, brace yourself for the math curriculum—seventh grade precalculus is a thing now! So, when your daughter approaches you with her giant math textbook, respond with something like, “Huh? What’s that? I’ll help you in a minute, but I’ve got some important ‘garage work’ to do.” Trust me, they will find answers through friends, the internet, or their mother—eventually learning more than you ever could.
Deflection is Key
If your wonderful partner steps out for a moment of peace and your daughter urgently needs to go bra shopping, suggest a sleepover with her best friend and say, “Ask her mom; she knows all about it.” That will surely end future inquiries on that topic.
If one of your daughters frequently wants to borrow your car, respond with, “I can’t let you have the keys; the car has an internal bilateral vortex server malfunction, and I’m waiting for a really expensive part from Swedenheim.”
Don’t Stress Too Much
These kids thrive on a diet of takeout and can multitask like pros. They navigate social dynamics effortlessly and can fix your gadgets with just a glance. Meanwhile, your brain? Well, it might not be keeping up.
So, don’t strive to meet unrealistic expectations. Listen to them, try not to comprehend their complexities, coach their teams, stock up on snacks, and most importantly, let them know they can always count on you to change the occasional light bulb.
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In summary, raising daughters can be a rollercoaster of emotions, humor, and learning experiences. Embrace your role as a supportive, albeit somewhat clueless, dad, and enjoy the ride!