Take the quiz below to evaluate your response to criticism, and afterward, explore Dr. Carter’s strategies for managing feedback gracefully.
Feedback is essential for growth, yet many individuals experience anxiety around it, which can make it feel overwhelming. Avoiding feedback due to fear can hinder your progress toward your goals. Additionally, if you shut yourself off from constructive criticism or react negatively due to anxiety, it can strain your relationships with those providing feedback. This section aims to help you navigate these challenges.
Take the Quiz
Select the answer that resonates most with you. If none perfectly match, choose the closest option.
- When contemplating feedback on your work, how likely are you to anticipate a negative response?
(A) I usually expect positive feedback as I see myself as capable.
(B) I feel apprehensive about negative feedback but can manage it.
(C) I often presume the feedback will be negative. - If your supervisor highlights nine strengths and one area for improvement, what’s your usual reaction?
(A) I think of ways to maintain the positive feedback.
(B) I’m pleased with the positive remarks, but the one critique bothers me slightly.
(C) That one critique lingers in my mind for days. - How confident are you in handling negative feedback?
(A) I’m sure I can make necessary changes.
(B) I might dwell on it for a bit but typically bounce back after some time to relax.
(C) I fear I would be too hurt to face the person who offered the feedback. - How much do you tend to take negative feedback personally?
(A) I generally don’t take feedback personally.
(B) I recognize when I do but usually catch myself.
(C) Negative feedback makes me feel like the person dislikes me rather than my work. - How likely are you to shy away from seeking feedback?
(A) I welcome feedback and find it beneficial.
(B) I tend to avoid feedback in some areas.
(C) I only seek feedback when absolutely necessary, like a trip to the dentist. - When someone behaves oddly toward you without explanation, how do you typically respond?
(A) I think, “It might be about them, not me; overthinking won’t help.”
(B) I worry that I’ve upset them and try to be extra accommodating, which annoys me for days.
(C) I obsess over the incident for days trying to figure out why. - If you ask someone if your jeans make you look overweight, do you truly want their opinion?
(A) Absolutely.
(B) Yes, but I prefer them to be gentle in their response.
(C) No way.
Interpreting Your Results
Mostly A’s: You typically view feedback as constructive and are not daunted by it. Even if you feel disappointed by negative feedback, you keep things in perspective and recognize your ability to adapt. You understand that not all negative feedback is a personal indictment.
Mostly B’s: You sometimes anticipate negative feedback and may dwell on the negatives, even when the overall feedback is positive. You can accept that feedback isn’t personal but can occasionally get caught up in your emotions.
Mostly C’s: Feedback creates significant anxiety for you, making you feel vulnerable. You often brace for negativity and lack confidence in addressing the issues raised. Negative feedback feels personal, prompting you to avoid situations where you might receive it.
Strategies for Managing Criticism
- Reframe Your Thinking: Train yourself to consider that feedback may not be personal. If you find yourself anxious and overhear a conversation, remind yourself that it may not relate to you.
- Practice Receiving Feedback: Getting feedback from someone you trust can help ease the anxiety associated with it. Start with someone who views you positively.
- Request Incremental Feedback: If seeking feedback feels daunting, ask for it in small doses. For instance, when launching a product, begin by obtaining feedback from one individual instead of many.
- Acknowledge Your Sensitivity: Understand that being sensitive to feedback is a natural trait. It can help prevent negative behaviors that might lead to social rejection, which is essential for survival and connection.
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Summary
This article explores how individuals respond to feedback and criticism, with a quiz to assess your comfort level and strategies to approach feedback more positively. Understanding your relationship with feedback can help you grow personally and professionally.