Once upon a time, friendships seemed boundless. We could spend endless afternoons immersed in discussions about who should have won Kelly Taylor’s heart—Dylan or Brandon. A group of us would huddle around a box of Franzia, reliving the iconic moments of Dirty Dancing, singing and gossiping without a care. Back then, I had best friends, almost-best friends, close friends, and acquaintances galore. So many connections. But fast-forward to today, and the landscape of my friendships has drastically shifted.
Over the past ten years, I’ve experienced a significant contraction in my social circle. With the addition of a husband, in-laws, and eventually children, several friendships have naturally faded away. Our available time is no longer limitless; our interests and priorities have diverged. Some friends live on the opposite coast or even halfway around the globe. This evolution has led me to redefine what friendship truly means, emphasizing quality over quantity.
I won’t lie; there are moments when I yearn for that overflowing friendship pool. I’ve felt pangs of sadness and envy when I see social media posts of friends gathering at a baseball game, knowing I wasn’t included. However, I’ve come to realize that true friendship is not measured by popularity or social media likes. While my list of close friends may be smaller, those on it are truly exceptional.
This shift from quantity to quality isn’t merely a product of growing older and busier; it’s also about navigating significant life challenges together. A couple of years ago, my dear friend Sarah was diagnosed with breast cancer. Throughout our 30-year friendship, we faced numerous trials, but nothing compared to the battle against cancer.
Determined to be the best friend possible, I made it a point to reach out daily, sharing in her frustrations over failed surgeries and setbacks, offering my support in any way I could. When she needed company during her first week of chemotherapy, I flew across the country to be with her, a significant feat given my current life stage filled with responsibilities.
Walking into her home, I wondered how this new challenge would impact our friendship. But Sarah greeted me with the same warmth and humor she always had, reminding me that beneath all the difficulties, we remained each other’s friends. After a day filled with laughter and hospital visits, I found myself folding laundry and cooking meals, immersing myself in the daily rhythms of her life—even as she underwent a treatment that was anything but ordinary.
Months later, when she began considering breast reconstruction, we shared intimate conversations about her journey in the least glamorous of settings, the restaurant restroom. Through it all, I recognized that while I might not always be the perfect friend, I could still contribute to her life in meaningful ways.
Friendship, especially in this stage of life, is about surrounding ourselves with those who support and uplift us, even if they come in different forms. One friend might offer uplifting advice and essential oils, while another brings cookies and humor. Together, they create a well-rounded support system that is far more than the sum of its parts.
Though we may not have as many friends as we once did, the few we have are likely more than enough. These friendships are deeper, more resilient, and truer than ever. They represent a kind of perfection that comes from shared experiences and unconditional support.
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In conclusion, while our social circles may have shrunk, the depth and strength of our relationships can indeed flourish, making the journey worthwhile.