After nearly 15 years of marriage, I’ve become quite familiar with the distinct traits of boys and girls—at least within my own family. While I often struggle to find the right direction, my partner can’t seem to locate the mayonnaise in our fridge. We both excel at being right, a trait that’s as unfortunate as it is amusing. My knowledge about cars is limited at best, and he could care less about sports unless it’s a quirky fact about the 1985 Tour de France. Together, we find balance.
We are the proud parents of a son and a daughter, both of whom are observing our every move. We hope they forget our parenting missteps but remember the enjoyable moments, even if they involve activities we weren’t thrilled about. While we strive to treat them equally, there are certain lessons we emphasize for each child as they navigate their own paths in this imperfect world.
For Our Son, We Aim to Teach:
- To respect toilet seats.
- To embrace his true self, regardless of societal expectations.
- To consider his audience when telling jokes (a work in progress).
- How to wash and fold clothes properly—check out this detailed guide on washing clothes.
- That dessert should always be enough for two, even if his partner claims otherwise.
- To avoid being the stereotypical alpha male who needs the last word.
- To locate items, even if they aren’t directly in his line of sight.
- The importance of asking for permission before touching someone else.
- How to uplift others and make them feel valued.
- The art of conversing with strangers on the phone.
- To hold doors open for everyone.
- To frequently compliment his partner’s physical attributes.
- To search for inner beauty in others, even when it’s not immediately visible.
- To give generously in relationships.
- How to form friendships.
- To love deeply, even if it means facing challenges afterward.
For Our Daughter, We Aim to Teach:
- The value of a well-timed kick to the groin (self-defense).
- How to change a flat tire.
- The best ways to ask someone out on a date.
- The importance of nurturing friendships.
- To recognize her self-worth and beauty, even when it feels hidden.
- To compliment her partner’s physical attributes frequently.
- That solo travel and dining can be enjoyable.
- To never apologize for simply existing as a woman.
- The significance of listening more than speaking (also a work in progress).
- To trust her instincts.
- How to make her voice heard (not overly concerned about this one).
- That she has the autonomy to grant permission for others to touch her.
- To choose a healthy lifestyle over perpetual dieting.
- To embrace her true self, regardless of societal pressures.
- To love intensely, even when it may be challenging to recover.
While we aspire to impart these lessons to both children, I recognize that our family dynamics might differ from others. There are certainly aspects I wish we didn’t have to teach. I long for the day when I can tell my daughter she can walk home at night without fear. I wish it were unnecessary to instruct our son on the importance of asking for consent before physical contact; it should be instinctive. Nonetheless, we’ll continue imparting these vital lessons, hoping the world evolves alongside our teachings.
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Summary:
This article reflects on the lessons a couple aims to impart to their son and daughter as they prepare them for adulthood. It highlights the unique challenges and expectations each child faces and emphasizes the importance of teaching respect, self-worth, and effective communication. The message underscores a desire for a safer, more understanding world for future generations.