“She’s such a big girl! How much does she weigh?”
This question was posed to me today by a caregiver at my daughter’s summer program. Yes, my little one was right there, her sparkling eyes looking up at me as she hugged my legs.
At just two years old, she still has those adorable little rolls on her arms. I’ve heard they tend to fade when toddlers start walking, but in her case, they’re still here—three delightful rolls instead of the six she used to have.
The caregiver didn’t mean any harm; we were just chatting while waiting for the program to begin. But ever since then, that question has echoed in my mind.
“She’s such a big girl. How much does she weigh?”
Here’s my plea: Please, never comment on a child’s weight, especially in front of them. My daughter may not fully grasp the meaning of those words yet, but she has ears that pick up everything. It’s crucial that she never feels the pressure of being labeled “big” when she is just a small, innocent child.
So, how do I respond? She is healthy, she is joyful, and she is absolutely perfect. Her weight does not define her value.
Next time you think it’s acceptable to remark on someone’s size, remember: it’s not.
And honestly, those sweet rolls? I’ll miss them when they’re gone. I plan to look back at photos and remind her of her beauty, which she truly embodies.
Let’s be clear—please don’t comment on my daughter’s size. Perhaps I’m particularly sensitive to such remarks because I’m navigating my own recovery from eating disorders. It’s important to realize that you never know who might be affected by a seemingly innocent comment.
Maybe it won’t impact someone, but it might. These ideas begin in childhood when kids absorb what society—and their parents—deem significant. By commenting on anyone’s weight, you inadvertently imply that body size matters.
Let’s shift the conversation. True beauty emanates from kindness, creativity, and intelligence. It transcends shapes and sizes, and we, as parents, possess the power to influence this narrative.
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In summary, let’s create an environment that values individuals for who they are, not just their physical appearance.