I spent yet another restless night tossing and turning, a recurring theme in my life for the past year. Once a champion sleeper—able to catch ZZZs on a couch during college parties—I now find myself in an uncomfortable and unfamiliar territory. I used to rely on a solid nine hours of sleep to function, but lately, my rest has been elusive, and my irritability, anxiety, and mood swings are not helping matters. Don’t even get me started on the hot flashes that have me contemplating walking around in my birthday suit all day.
It feels like I’m perpetually on the brink of PMS. I have my diva cup stashed away alongside a stash of chocolate and salty snacks at all times. What a delightful experience this is! At 44, I’m navigating the wild ride of perimenopause—a time when my body feels like it’s going through a hormonal tornado. It’s a far cry from the hormonal swings of pregnancy—trust me, I have three kids in three years to compare it to. And the cherry on top? My period shows up whenever it feels like it, making tracking it completely pointless.
Perimenopause doesn’t seem to care about age. It can hit when you least expect it. Many may think their mid-40s is too early for this emotional rollercoaster, but the reality is that the average woman enters menopause at around 51. However, the preparations for this shift come with a whole lot of chaos. Periods don’t just stop; they often become a source of torment first, something many with a uterus know all too well.
I remember my mother’s struggle with perimenopause. One day, as a “lazy teenager,” I was called out for not vacuuming. My mom, fresh from a doctor’s visit that confirmed she was starting menopause, unleashed her frustration on me with the vacuum hose as a prop. She was younger than I am now, and that phase of her life lasted for years—a memory I’ve tried to block out.
I promised myself I wouldn’t act that way, yet just the other day, I snapped at my son over some crumbs on the counter. As I reached for the vacuum, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and saw my mother staring back. So much for avoiding her fate.
Dr. Lisa Matthews, a specialist at Your Health Hub, explains that during perimenopause, women experience all the symptoms of menopause while still having their periods. Aren’t we the lucky ones? And these aren’t just your average periods; they often become irregular and heavier. In addition, symptoms can include breast tenderness, increased PMS, reduced libido, vaginal dryness, fatigue, memory lapses, hot flashes, and depression.
As our reproductive hormones—estrogen and progesterone—begin to fluctuate wildly, we find ourselves in a guessing game. “Some months, estrogen can be high, while other months it’s low,” says Dr. Matthews. “Sometimes, it’s the imbalance between estrogen and progesterone that leads to these symptoms.”
So what can we do to cope with this madness? Because let me tell you, it’s nothing short of a disaster. Dr. Matthews emphasizes the importance of addressing insomnia and depression. I’ve started taking melatonin, which has offered some relief, but I think it might be time to explore stronger options. A friend of mine swears by Tylenol PM.
Another avenue worth exploring is low-dose hormonal contraception or hormone therapy. “Some women find relief by taking progesterone during the latter half of their cycle, which can balance out the hormonal chaos,” says Matthews. “Others may benefit from a combination of both estrogen and progesterone.”
Self-care during this tumultuous time is crucial. Dr. Matthews encourages maintaining a good sleep schedule, regular exercise, and a balanced diet whenever possible.
It’s frustrating to feel like we’re not ourselves due to these hormonal fluctuations. My kids and my favorite jeans have both taken a hit as I navigate this challenging phase. I refuse to endure years of this turmoil without consulting my OBGYN for assistance. There’s no reason to resort to violent vacuuming as a coping mechanism when there’s help available. Life is tough enough without heavy bleeding and waking up drenched in sweat!
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In summary, perimenopause can feel like an emotional rollercoaster, filled with mood swings, irregular periods, and a host of other symptoms. It’s important to recognize that you’re not alone and to seek help from professionals and resources. Taking care of yourself is essential during this unpredictable time.