Let’s be real: I don’t expect my children—or any children, for that matter—to exhibit flawless manners all the time. There’s plenty of time for them to learn the ins and outs of etiquette, and honestly, even many adults aren’t well-versed in every rule of social decorum. I’m not fazed by a little elbow on the table or someone speaking while chewing their food. Sure, in a high-end restaurant, we’d want to keep things in check, but at home, it’s a different vibe.
That said, certain fundamental manners are essential, and there’s absolutely no excuse for parents not to pass these basics onto their kids. Teaching them isn’t rocket science (unless you’re among the mannerless crowd, in which case, get it together soon, please). Over time, these lessons will become as automatic as breathing. Simple gestures like saying “please” and “thank you,” holding the door open for others, offering to help someone in need, speaking softly in quiet settings, taking turns, or politely excusing oneself after a burp are all manners that even young children can learn.
Instilling good manners is a gift that will benefit your children throughout their lives. Think about it: between someone with proper etiquette and a rude individual, who do you think will navigate daily interactions more easily? The well-mannered person has a clear advantage. They’ll feel more comfortable in social situations, knowing how to behave. They create a positive first impression, and people—teachers, employers, friends—tend to appreciate those who don’t cause discomfort or embarrassment. This in turn can lead to better job prospects, promotions, and friendships, ultimately boosting their self-esteem.
Moreover, teaching kids to use good manners conveys an important message. It shows them that respect and consideration for others is deeper than just words; it’s about acknowledging that our interactions affect those around us. Raising rude children doesn’t benefit anyone, especially not those children themselves.
How to Combat Ill-Mannered Behavior
So, how do we combat the growing number of ill-mannered individuals in the world? It starts with us modeling good behavior from the get-go. From infancy, say “thank you” when they hand you a toy or even a soggy biscuit. When ordering at a restaurant or leaving a playdate, demonstrate the behavior you’d like them to adopt. Rather than forcing them, which could backfire, gently prompt them. Give them the chance to respond when someone asks them a question instead of answering for them.
Do we expect perfect manners all the time? Definitely not. My eldest is 12, and I still find myself reminding them occasionally. Kids forget—if they didn’t, we wouldn’t have to repeat things like “don’t throw your socks on the floor.” Adults forget, too; that’s why stories of rude people often go viral, serving as a reminder of the importance of courtesy.
Consistency is crucial. By continually modeling good behavior and providing reminders, good manners will eventually become second nature. This small effort on our part can benefit not only our children but everyone they encounter throughout their lives. So, let’s do everyone a favor and teach our kids how to treat others with respect.
I mean, really, let’s make it happen…please.
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In summary, teaching kids basic manners is crucial for their social development and overall success in life. It’s an easy gift to give, one that fosters respect and consideration for others, ultimately benefiting everyone.