Crying is a natural human response, and I admit, I’m someone who often finds myself in tears when emotions run high. Whenever I face significant emotional moments—whether it’s a touching scene in a movie or a more serious life event—I don’t hold back. Growing up, I was surrounded by family members who expressed their feelings openly, including my parents. Their tears were not confined to private spaces; they showed me that vulnerability is part of being human.
Witnessing my parents’ emotional expressions taught me invaluable lessons. Sure, it could be unsettling to see them cry at times, but it also revealed their strength and resilience. I saw them navigate life’s challenges, from personal losses to the daily stresses of parenting, and their ability to rise after hardship inspired me.
As I became a mother myself, I hesitated to show my children my tears. I worried they might think they were to blame for my sadness or become overly sensitive to the ups and downs of life. But then I remembered my own upbringing. Just as I wouldn’t hide my laughter, I realized I shouldn’t hide my tears.
Experts like Emily Sanders, a child psychologist, affirm that showing emotions, including crying, can be healthy for children. “Why would parents conceal their joy?” she asks. “The same logic applies to tears.” Over the years, I’ve learned to communicate with my kids about my feelings, explaining that crying is a normal reaction to both joyful and sorrowful moments. There’s no reason to make them think that tears indicate weakness or instability.
Jessica Monroe, a licensed social worker, emphasizes that it’s crucial to reassure children when we cry. “Explain what’s happening, let them know it won’t change their stability, and offer them comfort,” she suggests. If crying becomes a frequent occurrence, however, it may be wise to consult a professional to explore potential underlying issues, as your mental health is vital.
Now that my kids are older, I find it easier to talk to them about what’s going on in my life. They understand that life can be tough, and I hope this transparency helps them grow into more empathetic individuals.
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In essence, embracing our emotional side in front of our kids can foster understanding and compassion in them as they grow.