Navigating the pandemic has been incredibly tough! Based on my observations, it appears that individuals aged 30 to 50—my generation—are feeling the impact the most. While everyone is experiencing some level of hardship, it seems our demographic is vocalizing their struggles more than others.
Why This Demographic Feels the Impact
We are increasingly concerned about our aging parents and grandparents, who are among the highest at risk during this crisis. The decision some of them are making to live life to the fullest despite the risks is deeply unsettling for us.
We also feel sorrow for our children—the vacations that are now canceled, the education they are missing, and the gatherings that have been put on hold. While we share in this sadness, many of my friends express their disappointment in not being able to create lasting memories for their kids during this time.
Like our parents, we’ve lived a long time without experiencing anything quite like this. Very few are left who can recall the flu pandemic of 1919, making this situation feel particularly surreal.
The Mixed Messages on Social Media
Yet, social media is flooded with mixed messages on how we should respond to this evolving crisis. The prevailing sentiments seem to fall into two categories: “This is the worst thing ever! Stop adjusting your lives!” or “Stop feeling down! Embrace your ‘new normal’ and be happy!”
I can appreciate both perspectives. For many of us, if we haven’t faced severe issues like racism, extreme poverty, or religious persecution, this might be the most significant event we’ve ever dealt with. So, let’s give ourselves permission to feel sad, angry, and worn out. Those emotions are completely valid.
Observations on Resilience
Interestingly, I’ve observed my three kids adapting remarkably well. They’ve found joy within the constraints of social distancing without any coaching from me; if anything, they’ve modeled resilience.
When we’re weathering a storm, it can feel like it will never end, but it will. This pandemic will eventually pass. When someone encourages us to make the best of a bad situation, they might be trying to help us release the unrealistic expectations we often place on ourselves as parents, urging us to maintain perspective about life’s greater journey.
Advice for Navigating These Times
Here’s my advice to myself that may resonate with others:
- It’s perfectly fine to feel mad, sad, or exhausted. Mindfulness has taught me to recognize these feelings, sit with them momentarily, and then let them go. If those thoughts start to interfere with my sleep or relationships, it’s time to seek help.
- We can’t expect our family experiences to mirror what they were before the pandemic. Let’s not pretend we aren’t in an unprecedented situation.
- Instead of stressing about entertaining our kids endlessly, let’s check in with them. If they’re okay, take a moment to express gratitude over a cup of coffee. If they’re struggling, seek assistance. If they’re somewhere in between, brainstorm enjoyable activities that can still create memories—like hiking, baking, or teaching your dog a new trick.
I don’t have to act like we’re in strict lockdown all the time. This summer, we enjoyed a camping trip and visited family in another state. However, when case numbers rise, we need to be responsible to help flatten the curve. In October 2020, hospitals in Wisconsin were overwhelmed, and Ohio was showing similar trends. So while my kids may be disappointed to miss an indoor gathering this weekend, we’ll find other enjoyable activities instead.
The coming winter is likely to be challenging. We will still be grappling with the pandemic into 2021, and while I will miss the holiday celebrations, travel plans, and work events that usually characterize this season, I find solace in the fact that I have a puppy at home who adores my family, something I likely wouldn’t have brought into our lives without this pandemic.
Additional Resources
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Summary
The pandemic has uniquely affected those aged 30 to 50, who are grappling with concerns for their aging parents and the impact on their children’s experiences. While feelings of sadness and frustration are natural, it’s crucial to acknowledge these emotions and seek balance. Engaging in mindful activities and focusing on family connection can help navigate these unprecedented times.