In September, I endured the most harrowing 30 seconds of my life — watching our 2-year-old son, Charlie, seemingly slip away. My partner, Alex, emitted a primal scream unlike anything I’d ever heard, as we spotted him floating face down in the hot tub. The haunting image of his pale, lifeless body being pulled from the water is something I still struggle to erase from my mind.
Fortunately, our story has a positive conclusion, and I feel compelled to share the details of Charlie’s accident, not to evoke strong emotions but to provide a cautionary reminder to other parents.
Our weekend had been joyful, marking our family’s first visit to Alex’s parents’ new home. We spent much of Labor Day weekend enjoying their in-ground pool. On Sunday, after a leisurely downtown lunch, we returned for a couple of hours of swimming, with plans to grill steaks later and prepare for our long drive home the next day.
Around 5 p.m., Charlie declared he was finished swimming. After removing his floaty, he sought help from a family member, and I consented to take it off. At that moment, Alex and my father-in-law had exited the pool, while my mother-in-law and I were about to follow. A casual conversation ensued, capturing the attention of all four adults nearby. Unbeknownst to us, Charlie quietly climbed the edge of the hot tub, slipping beneath the surface without a sound. My heart races as I recall those terrifying moments.
The silence was deafening, and it all happened in a blink. Despite being just feet away, we couldn’t comprehend how he had managed to go unnoticed. It’s a reality that’s hard to grasp. In a split second, I nearly lost my beloved child.
This summer, I had immersed myself in articles warning that drowning doesn’t resemble its portrayal in films. Alex and I had even discussed additional safety measures just days before our trip, including keeping Charlie’s floaty on, adding a lock to the pool gate, and committing to never taking our eyes off him. We believed we had prepared adequately.
However, when Alex retrieved Charlie from the water, he wasted no time in laying him on the grass, initiating CPR. He administered chest compressions and mouth-to-mouth resuscitation, but Charlie remained unresponsive. I felt detached from reality, overwhelmed with panic as my brother-in-law restrained me, fearing I would rush to my son. It was a scene of sheer horror.
Then, to our relief, Charlie coughed up blood, followed by more blood and water. That moment transformed my world. Alex handed him to me, and as I held him tightly, he contacted emergency services. The paramedics arrived, and I pleaded for reassurance that Charlie was okay, but they only affirmed he was alive and in good hands.
After hurried preparations, we were transported to Dell Children’s Hospital in Austin, where we spent nearly four hours in the ER, repeating our story countless times and undergoing various tests. A doctor looked straight at Alex, recognizing his quick actions had saved our son’s life. We both broke down in tears.
Eventually, we were moved to a room one level below the ICU, where our infant daughter, Lily, could stay with us. While the doctors assured us that Charlie would likely survive without severe brain damage, I didn’t exhale a genuine sigh of relief until he accepted a popsicle around midnight. His love for popsicles returned, and he was alert enough to request one.
Twenty-four hours later, we were discharged, grateful to return home with our healthy miracle.
Reflecting on this experience, I wish I could have foreseen the impending danger. Despite our best efforts, we were blindsided by the accident. In the aftermath, we’ve shared moments of tears and conversations about preventing such incidents in the future. Here are some important insights we’ve gathered:
1. More Adults Can Be a Double-Edged Sword
While it seems logical to think that having more adults around would enhance safety, in our case, it created distractions. We all assumed someone else was keeping an eye on Charlie.
2. Floaties Aren’t a Substitute for Swim Skills
When Charlie wore his floaty, he felt confident and independent. Once it was removed, he likely forgot he could no longer swim on his own. Our goal is to enroll him and Lily in swim lessons soon, hoping to instill swimming skills by next summer.
3. Importance of CPR Training
Having up-to-date CPR certification can be lifesaving in emergencies. Alex’s annual training with the Army proved invaluable, and I realized my last certification was over four years ago. I’ve enrolled in a CPR class that also covers lifesaving techniques like the Heimlich maneuver.
4. Be Kind to Everyone
The day after our ordeal, I took Charlie to a dental appointment. As he played with other children, I was moved by their kindness. Those girls didn’t know what Charlie had just faced but offered him joy. This reinforced the importance of compassion—everyone is fighting their battles.
5. Faith in Difficult Times
We leaned heavily on our faith during those uncertain hours. When words failed us, we prayed, seeking comfort and hope. This experience has deepened our faith, and we are grateful for the presence of a higher power in our lives.
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In summary, our near tragedy served as a wake-up call, highlighting the need for vigilance, preparation, and a strong support system. We continue to cherish every moment with our children, grateful for their safety.