Last weekend, I hopped on a plane and traveled across the country to celebrate a little one’s 10th birthday party alongside a group of women I originally met online. Yes, it’s as surprising as it sounds—let’s rewind a bit for context.
A decade ago, I was just 24 years old and pregnant with my first child. As I navigated the emotional rollercoaster of impending motherhood, I felt an intense sense of solitude. My OBGYN, a seasoned professional, didn’t quite have the empathy for my emotional musings and suggested I join an online forum to connect with other expectant mothers. I chuckled at the idea, thinking “mommy groups” were a breeding ground for drama. However, my desire for female camaraderie eventually drew me in, and in June 2008, I signed up for the November Due Date Club on a popular parenting website.
Over the years, I’ve engaged with various online communities—from vegan moms to homeschooling enthusiasts, but the November ’08 group was truly exceptional. We bonded over everything from feeding choices to nursery themes, and I quickly became the jokester of the group, sharing my pregnancy victories and blunders.
The Birth of a Bond
The question often arises about what made our November ‘08 group so tightly knit, and while there are many factors, I believe our sisterhood was solidified by the premature birth of a baby named Leo. Born weighing just 1 lb. and 3.5 oz., Leo’s arrival on July 29, 2008, marked a pivotal moment for us all. His mother, only 21, was facing a whirlwind of challenges as her partner served in the military.
I’ve never witnessed such unwavering support from a group, especially considering that we had never met in person. Even ten years later, our bond remains strong, and we continue to rally for one another in moments of need.
For instance, many of us traveled countless miles to attend Leo’s first birthday party. When his sister arrived well before her due date, we organized a surprise baby shower. We’ve run fundraisers, exchanged holiday ornaments, and stood by one another during personal hardships, including divorce and loss. On my wedding day, I was overwhelmed with emotion when I spotted Leo, now a sprightly 3-year-old, playing outside the venue, having traveled three hours with his parents to be part of my special day.
Shared Experiences
As our children grew, we faced both joyous and heartbreaking moments together. We attended a funeral to support one of our own through a tragic loss and celebrated milestones like marathons and Mother’s Day. Despite the occasional chaos—like getting kicked off an airplane—we’ve made memories that feel like a family.
While some of us have met in person, others remain virtual friends. There’s one member I talk to daily, and these women have become my confidants, my support system, and my sisters.
A Milestone Celebration
Fast forward to July 29, 2018: Leo, our micro-preemie miracle, celebrated his 10th birthday. My own son was in awe when he learned about Leo’s incredible journey.
So, when I took my son to this milestone birthday across the country, it felt like fate. Leo’s family usually hosts the celebration at Whiskeytown Lake, but due to a devastating forest fire, we gathered in Sacramento with several members of our group. Sitting on the beach, watching our children play together, I realized how deeply connected we are. These women know me better than many of my own relatives.
It’s hard to fathom that we began as strangers online. Happy 10th birthday, Leo! Because of you, I’ve found my tribe—and perhaps my son has found his as well.
Resources for Expectant Mothers
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Conclusion
In summary, online friendships are as valid and meaningful as those formed in person. They can provide the support, laughter, and understanding we often seek, proving that true connection knows no bounds.