Back in December, prior to the onset of the pandemic, I faced an extended bout of depression that lingered into February. With work stress weighing on me and a book I released not meeting my expectations, I felt overwhelmed. Then, the news of coronavirus began to spread. Initially, I didn’t pay much attention, like many others.
But as the virus made its way to the U.S., everything shifted. I was grappling with trying to find my footing—sifting through the chaos online to understand the reality of the situation, while also figuring out how to teach my kids from home amidst working remotely. All of this crashed over me like an unexpected wave.
To be honest, the hectic pace kept my mind somewhat distracted from my depression. Yet, after about a month, once life slowed down, I found myself in the grip of one of my toughest depressive episodes. Having battled anxiety and depression for years, I know I should utilize my resources and medications to help manage these feelings. However, like many others struggling with mental health during a pandemic, I hesitated to take the necessary steps to seek help.
I can’t pinpoint why I often find myself in this predicament. I know I need support, I recognize my struggles, and I see myself withdrawing from social interactions. Yet, for some reason, I keep delaying scheduling an appointment with my therapist. I make excuses and put it off.
What I do realize, however, is that my partner, Sarah, can detect when I’m not okay from a distance. Last month, she sat me down for a heart-to-heart about therapy. Calmly and without judgment, she expressed her concerns about my well-being and suggested I reconnect with my therapist.
Having been married for over fifteen years, this isn’t the first time Sarah has had this conversation with me. Each time, I resist, insisting that I can manage on my own. I tell her I have the tools to cope. Yet, inevitably, I come around and make the appointment. After a few sessions, I begin to feel better and am always grateful for her insight and compassion.
Like many who suffer from depression, I have had thoughts about suicide more often than I would like. Sarah’s willingness to intervene and encourage me to seek help demonstrates just how much she cares. In truth, every time she does this, she might be saving my life.
Right now, we’re all navigating a challenging landscape. Unemployment levels are soaring, and many of us are confined to our homes, trying to stay safe while comprehending this fast-evolving situation. This environment can easily foster depression. I see numerous individuals online sharing their emotional struggles due to COVID-19.
If you’re feeling similarly, I urge you to seek out resources. Numerous state-funded programs are still available for those battling depression, and many therapists have transitioned to online sessions. I’ve been meeting with mine virtually since Sarah encouraged me to do so.
Most importantly, if you notice your partner struggling but avoiding seeking help, have an honest conversation with them. Approach the topic with care, letting them know you’ve observed their difficulties and that you’re genuinely concerned. Reassure them of your love and support as they navigate these tough times.
It’s essential to understand that depression often paralyzes individuals, making even the thought of reaching out for help feel daunting. Offer to assist them in finding resources. Conduct a quick search online for therapists or contact their insurance provider together. Being persistent yet compassionate in removing barriers can make a significant difference.
I’ll be the first to admit that I often resist when Sarah steps in, but I am always thankful afterward. I recognize her actions come from a place of love. Be that supportive figure for your partner, especially during these trying times; they might need you more than ever.
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Summary:
Encouraging your partner to seek therapy during difficult times, especially in the current climate, can be life-changing. Signs of depression may not always be obvious to those struggling, and a gentle push from a loved one can lead to much-needed support. It’s crucial to approach the conversation with care and understanding, ensuring that your partner feels loved and supported throughout their journey.