During a weekend Zoom catch-up with my close friends, we found ourselves discussing the challenges of juggling family life with everything else on our plates. I suggested, “How about a weekend getaway? Just us—no husbands, no kids!” The response was immediate and enthusiastic; we all needed a break. With summer approaching and the pandemic behind us, a mini escape felt like the perfect remedy. We envisioned nights filled with laughter, karaoke, and the bliss of uninterrupted sleep without a child’s early morning antics. Thus began the planning of our much-needed retreat.
A few weeks later, while chatting with another friend, Emma, who had missed our previous call, she mentioned she would be visiting her parents with her new baby. We excitedly shared our girls’ trip plans, not really expecting her to join. To our surprise, she expressed her desire to come along—with her baby.
Cue the awkward moment. How do you tell a new mom that her infant isn’t welcome on a trip meant for a break from parenting? I took a deep breath and explained to Emma that we had intended this to be a kid-free getaway—a time for us to unwind and recharge. I reassured her that this was not about rejecting her or her baby; it was about creating space for us to relax without the demands of motherhood, even if just for a couple of days.
Her response was tinged with disappointment: “I thought you’d be excited to meet my baby…” While we all were eager to meet her little one, we reiterated the importance of this trip for our own well-being. This was Emma’s first child, and she had always been the adventurous type, so it was likely shocking to hear she couldn’t bring her baby along. But we had all agreed this would be a necessary break for moms.
After a week of reflection, Emma proposed a compromise: she would stay in a separate hotel but join us during the day with her baby. I gently reminded her that our intention was to keep this a kids-free experience, as much as we loved her family. The essence of this getaway was to focus on ourselves without worrying about nap times or baby needs, something every mom deserves.
Eventually, Emma decided to leave her baby with her parents during our trip. When the getaway finally arrived, the excitement was palpable. The first group of friends headed to the resort on Friday, and Emma joined us on Saturday morning. We enjoyed a delightful lunch, a scenic hike, and a refreshing swim—pure bliss!
As we strolled back to our suite, I remarked, “Can you imagine how different this would have been with a baby in tow?” Emma hesitated, recalling a woman by the pool with her infant, but I pointed out that she was with her husband and another child, clearly on a family trip. It’s easy to feel mom guilt, but it’s essential to remember that taking time for ourselves is vital in order to be the best moms we can be.
That evening, we enjoyed a leisurely dinner, laughing and chatting for hours. If we had been juggling a baby, we likely would have had to cut our night short, missing out on the fun. Emma ended up spending the night with us, and we left feeling rejuvenated, ready to return to our families.
I never anticipated having to explain to a friend why her baby couldn’t join us. It’s a delicate topic, but I learned that setting boundaries is crucial. By upholding our original plan, we all enjoyed a stress-free weekend, proving that sometimes, you need to prioritize your own needs to be the best parent possible.
So, if you’re considering a mom-only trip, go for it! Don’t feel guilty about taking the time you need to recharge.
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Summary:
A group of friends planned a much-needed kid-free getaway, but when one friend wanted to bring her baby, it sparked an uncomfortable conversation about boundaries and the importance of self-care for mothers. After some initial reluctance, the friend decided to leave her baby at home, allowing everyone to enjoy a relaxing and rejuvenating trip.