Before stepping into motherhood, I had a firm grasp on what anxiety felt like. It was that jittery sensation before tackling a significant college exam, the flutter in your stomach before a blind date, or the heart-racing unease just before a job interview. I believed I understood anxiety—its triggers, its impacts, and the relief when it subsided. I had experienced those moments when anxiety finally lifted.
Then I became a mom, and my perspective changed entirely. I discovered that true anxiety doesn’t just come and go; it becomes an enduring companion. Like the changing seasons, the nature and intensity of anxiety shift, but it remains a constant presence in a mother’s life.
Motherhood’s anxiety often strikes in unpredictable waves, sometimes fierce like a winter storm or a raging hurricane. Other times, it creeps in subtly, much like the first cool day of autumn that nudges leaves to change color. From the moment I felt my baby kick for the first time, anxiety took root in my soul and never really let go.
Yet, like weathering a hurricane or enduring a blizzard, we learn to survive these cycles of motherhood anxiety. The belief that we can endure these seasons, and recognizing that we have, helps us face the next round of unpredictability. I thought I’d never survive my anxiety-ridden pregnancy filled with fears of stillbirths and complications. But I did. When I became pregnant again, I was better equipped to handle the anxiety because I had already navigated that season.
The overwhelming worry that accompanied my newborn was another daunting chapter. I thought it would last forever, but it eventually faded. When my second, third, and fourth children came along, I approached those newborn stages with greater confidence, knowing I had survived it before.
I anticipated the toddler years would be my downfall, plagued by constant worries about development. However, I emerged stronger, and those early challenges no longer intimidated me when they resurfaced. Then came the middle years—filled with routine and self-doubt. I often questioned my abilities as a mother, but as those phases concluded, I found myself with extraordinary adolescent kids who amazed me more than I had feared.
As my children transitioned into their teenage years, the anxiety hit a new high. The fears associated with teenagers are distinct and often overwhelming, and there were days I longed for the simplicity of toddlerhood. Yet, as I watched my son head off to college, I was able to shed the worries I had harbored throughout his teen years. I vowed not to let anxiety overshadow the next set of teenage years with my other kids.
Motherhood can stretch over nearly two decades filled with various anxieties about our children—and even beyond, as we continue to worry about them as adults. If we view these experiences as temporary seasons that all mothers endure, we can face them with confidence, knowing they will eventually pass. The mantra “This too shall pass” has become my lifeline, helping me avoid complete mental collapse while remaining hopeful for brighter days ahead.
With support from fellow mothers who have weathered these storms, I’ve learned to embrace these seasons—yes, even the most daunting ones—with newfound resilience. Sometimes, simply acknowledging that the worries we face are part of the norm can offer a sense of relief. Imagine how liberating it would be if we all shared our vulnerabilities more openly, providing comfort and understanding to one another.
If you find yourself grappling with anxiety that feels unmanageable, please consult your doctor or reach out to a mental health professional. This article is not a substitute for medical advice.
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Summary
Motherhood is filled with fluctuating seasons of anxiety, from pregnancy fears to the challenges of adolescence. While anxiety may feel overwhelming, it’s important to recognize that these feelings are temporary and can be managed with support and understanding. Embracing the journey and knowing that “this too shall pass” can empower mothers to navigate their experiences with confidence.