A few months back, I had a heart-to-heart with a friend about the complexities of parenting, the rollercoaster of daily life, and the overwhelming news cycle. After I shared my emotional struggles and tearful reflections, she remarked, “I think you might experience emotions more intensely than others.” This observation resonated deeply with me. I identify as someone who feels profoundly—often referred to as a highly sensitive person (HSP). My emotional responses are heightened, and my capacity for empathy runs deep.
For those unfamiliar with the experience of being an HSP, allow me to explain. And for those who relate, you’ll understand exactly what I mean.
The Challenges of High Empathy
Being a highly empathetic individual means grappling with self-doubt and regret. You often find yourself overanalyzing decisions, especially those made in the heat of the moment. Conversations replay in your mind, leading you to question whether you could have responded differently. The end result is often a sense of guilt for what you perceive as mistakes.
Your empathy extends to a wide range of issues, from social justice matters like racism and xenophobia to the mundane anxieties of daily life, such as whether people perceive you negatively for not sending holiday greetings. When others seem indifferent to causes you care about, you may feel isolated, questioning your own sensitivity.
This compassionate nature can leave you feeling overwhelmed by the world’s injustices and even the small challenges of your day. You passionately engage with causes that matter to you but may later retreat, realizing that it’s impossible to shoulder every burden.
The Blessings of High Empathy
Empathy involves more than just feeling for others; it means experiencing their emotions as if they were your own. This deep connection fosters a belief that we have a duty to care for one another in our shared human experience. Yet, this intense perception can lead to confusion, as life isn’t just black and white; it’s filled with nuances that can be emotionally draining to navigate.
Despite the challenges, being an empathetic person is ultimately a blessing. While our sensitivity may allow in the negativity—the tragic news of refugees or the sorrow surrounding a friend’s illness—it also opens us up to joy. I’ve shed tears of frustration over societal injustices, but I’ve also experienced profound moments of tenderness, such as hugging a fellow mother in gratitude after witnessing an act of kindness. These big emotions drive us to take action and foster connections with others.
Self-Care for the Highly Empathetic
For those of us who identify as highly empathetic, self-care becomes essential. It can be helpful to limit your emotional intake by taking breaks from the news and social media. Engaging with a close circle of friends rather than large social gatherings can be rejuvenating. Additionally, seeking therapy or medication can provide support.
However, the most significant factor in managing the emotional rollercoaster is self-acceptance. It’s important to recognize your identity as an empathetic, sensitive individual. While you may envy those with thicker skins, embracing your softness is vital. One of my favorite quotes comes from author Iain S. Thomas: “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.”
Choosing Hope
In a world that can seem overwhelmingly negative, we choose to remain soft and hopeful. We resist bitterness and take pride in our belief that, despite everything, the world is still a beautiful place. We channel this beauty and hope into our lives, ultimately passing it on to our children.
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Conclusion
In summary, being a highly empathetic person presents both challenges and gifts. The emotional depth we experience allows for meaningful connections and actions, even amidst a chaotic world.