As a parent, the current climate brings forth numerous challenges, particularly for those raising an only child. For me, the biggest hurdle has been the constant proximity to my son without the opportunity for a break. Unlike parents with multiple children who can suggest that one child engage with a sibling, I find myself unable to create that much-needed space.
My son, now six, struggles to grasp the abstract nature of social distancing. To him, the pandemic simply means that his usual activities—visiting the playground, shopping trips, or enjoying a treat at McDonald’s—are no longer possible. As an only child, I often find myself worrying about the impact of reduced social interaction on his development and well-being.
Peer interactions are crucial for children, especially those in school. Being around friends provides a sense of camaraderie that is hard to replicate with adults. I often find myself anxious about the long-term effects of this isolation. However, as Dr. Lisa Hartman, a child psychologist, notes, “The pandemic has affected all children, not just those without siblings.”
Like many parents who are adapting to remote work, my experience is unique. My son is accustomed to entertaining himself while I focus on my job, but the prolonged confinement has changed the dynamic. There’s a noticeable increase in frustration on both sides, as I often have to intervene to redirect his energy.
Typically, we break up our day with outdoor activities, but with those options limited, it’s challenging for me to disconnect from work and engage with him fully. The days seem to stretch endlessly, leaving me wishing for a break.
Yet, in a piece from Parenting Today, psychologist Sarah Thompson emphasizes that children often become adept at self-entertainment, especially when given the opportunity. My son has rediscovered his passion for building and creating—his train set that once gathered dust is now a regular source of joy. While self-sufficiency is valuable, I worry he may be missing out on the socialization that comes from interacting with peers.
To foster some social interaction, my son visits his dad twice a week. Although it’s still primarily adult company, I hope the change of environment offers a bit of relief. The fear of negative long-term consequences looms large, and I wish for him to have fond memories rather than just feelings of boredom.
It’s essential to understand that social distancing doesn’t equate to social isolation. Experts, including the World Health Organization, suggest reframing it as “physical distancing.” It’s more important than ever for children to connect, and allowing greater access to screens can be beneficial.
My son’s kindergarten teacher organizes virtual meetings twice a week, which have become a lifeline for him. We also regularly connect with friends and family through video calls, allowing him to see familiar faces and engage in conversation. Additionally, I’m arranging virtual story times with other parents and their children, many of whom also have only children.
Having been an only child myself, I can empathize with his experience of loneliness, especially during such isolating times. This pandemic has been tough for everyone, but children likely feel the weight of it even more heavily.
While the challenges of parenting an only child during a pandemic are significant, this time can also serve as an opportunity to strengthen our bonds. Creating new family traditions or learning new skills together can foster closeness. I took advantage of a sale at a local store and bought board games that promote critical thinking. Game nights have become a fun way to spend time together.
Cooking has also become a shared activity; my son loves helping me bake. I make it a point to have lunch with him most days, which has helped us connect during this isolating period.
Physical affection plays a crucial role as well. As clinical psychologist Dr. Maria Gonzalez advises, “Encourage hugs and cuddles if your household is healthy.” In our home, we’re embracing the comfort of increased physical closeness.
While this quarantine period is challenging for all families, it’s important to remember that being an only child doesn’t inherently disadvantage a child. Parents may feel the weight of their child’s social needs, but kids are remarkably resilient. By showing them they are not alone in this experience, we can help them navigate through it.
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Summary
Parenting an only child during a time of social isolation presents unique challenges, particularly in maintaining their social development. While the absence of peer interaction can create worries for parents, it’s essential to adapt by fostering creativity and connection through virtual meetings and family activities. By prioritizing quality time and emotional support, parents can help their only children navigate this difficult period while strengthening their bond.