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I identify as pro-choice and am also the mother of a 12-year-old boy with Down syndrome. At first glance, these two aspects of my life may not seem conflicting, yet they present a personal challenge. Approximately 67% of pregnancies diagnosed with Down syndrome end in abortion, which reflects a societal tendency to undervalue children like my son. This reality complicates my pro-choice beliefs.
I staunchly advocate for bodily autonomy as a fundamental human right, asserting that women should never be coerced into pregnancy. Likewise, individuals with intellectual disabilities, including my son, deserve the freedom to live independently, without fear of institutionalization or forced sterilization. At this foundational level, the principles of disability advocacy and abortion rights align closely.
However, the pro-choice movement often strays from emphasizing bodily autonomy as the primary justification for legal abortion. Frequently, discussions center around specific circumstances—such as rape, maternal health, or fetal disability—which is where I find myself at odds.
When my partner was eight weeks pregnant, our son was diagnosed with a heart condition common among children with Down syndrome. We were heartbroken, not only about his health but also concerning the potential for intellectual challenges. Despite our shock, we firmly decided against termination, based on a prior agreement. However, our doctor pressured us to consider amniocentesis, implying that a confirmed diagnosis could lead to an abortion. Even my therapist suggested termination or institutional care due to the prognosis. This narrative is sadly familiar among parents of children with Down syndrome.
Why did we choose to continue the pregnancy?
I believe in fate and that any child we were meant to have would be perfect for us. Additionally, we had the financial means and insurance to support a child with special needs. While I recognize that abortion is a valid option, I resent how the medical community and the pro-choice movement often treat it as the default response to a Down syndrome diagnosis. Those promoting this viewpoint often lack an understanding of what life with a child with Down syndrome really entails, perpetuating a narrative steeped in fear and misinformation.
Life with my son is filled with unique challenges and joys. He is mostly nonverbal but expresses himself through his emotions. His humor brings laughter into our home. While academics can be tough, I’ve learned to prioritize his development as a kind and caring person over traditional achievements. His ability to find joy in simple things, even during extended quarantine, is truly inspiring.
Unfortunately, the most challenging aspect of raising my son is often society’s attitudes towards him. We faced significant hurdles in finding daycare and schools that recognized his potential. Stares from strangers in public further illustrate the biases fueled by the pro-choice movement’s framing of disability as a reason for abortion.
What do I hope for?
First and foremost, I wish pro-choice advocates would refrain from using disability as a justification for abortion. Why is it more acceptable to cite a Down syndrome diagnosis as a reason for termination than to simply uphold a woman’s right to make choices about her own body?
Secondly, I urge the pro-choice movement to embrace the idea that choice should come with unbiased information regarding prenatal diagnoses. When the medical community promotes false narratives about the difficulties of raising a child with Down syndrome, it denies women the opportunity to make truly informed decisions about their pregnancies.
Women deserve access to comprehensive, judgment-free information so they can make the best choices for themselves.
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Summary
Balancing pro-choice beliefs with the experience of raising a child with Down syndrome poses unique challenges. While advocating for bodily autonomy, it’s essential to avoid framing disability as a reason for abortion. Instead, we should focus on providing unbiased, comprehensive information to empower women in their decision-making.