In March 2020, I isolated myself from the outside world while sporting a barely noticeable baby bump. I had just begun sharing the news of my pregnancy at work and hadn’t even let all my friends in on it. Fast forward to today, and I’m stepping back into society with an 11-month-old in tow.
The experience of becoming a mother is a whirlwind of excitement and chaos, paired with moments of solitude and routine. This reality holds true for all new moms, but for those of us who gave birth during the pandemic, the feeling of isolation was magnified. My pregnancy was marked by a lack of public acknowledgment; few admired my growing belly, hardly anyone met my newborn, and there were no onlookers to witness my transition into motherhood. We even missed out on the common shared experiences that typically accompany this significant life change.
“When I was pregnant, I found myself wishing for someone to come up and touch my belly while I was shopping,” recalls Jane, a member of my new moms’ group. “But without those shared moments or battle stories, I worried about how to connect with other moms.”
Yet, despite this isolation, I found that I wasn’t subjected to the usual scrutiny that often accompanies motherhood. Without the presence of others, I didn’t face the judgment or unsolicited advice that many of my friends with older children discussed. My journey into motherhood unfolded in a bubble where I felt free to navigate my new role without external pressures. Sure, I participated in weekly Zoom meetings with other new moms, but there was no judgment—only camaraderie as we navigated those early months together. It was a lonely experience, but it was also entirely on my terms.
While we were confined, we faced fewer decisions. I didn’t have to consider how to travel with my infant or sift through playgroups and educational activities. I was spared the anxiety of hosting visitors, which had always overwhelmed me before becoming a mom. Instead, I relished the uninterrupted time with my newborn, exploring her milestones without distractions. My husband was nearby, and I enjoyed the simplicity of our little family dynamic, cherishing those early moments together.
However, as the pandemic eases and life returns to some semblance of normalcy, I find myself grappling with the complexities of parenting in public. I’ve become a mother who has weathered sleepless nights, teething, and all the challenges that come with it. Yet, I feel a certain vulnerability about parenting in the presence of others.
“There are so many little things to learn,” says Claire, whose baby is just a month older than mine. “I recently took my daughter to a restaurant for the first time, and I had to navigate changing her on the bathroom changing table. If it weren’t for the pandemic, we would have learned these things gradually, but now it’s all at once.”
I’ve noticed my reluctance to parent around others too. Just a few weekends ago, we enjoyed our first family ice cream outing. As my husband purchased our treats, I sat with my daughter, realizing that aside from a few family interactions, no one had truly witnessed my parenting style. For a moment, I questioned whether I appeared to be a competent mom and if others were judging my abilities.
“I’ve come to recognize this as a late-onset imposter syndrome,” Melissa explains. “For so long, I’ve operated without scrutiny. I’ve had the freedom to parent my way for the past nine months, but now that we’re re-entering society, I find myself second-guessing everything. It makes me wonder if I’m doing things correctly.”
There’s also a bittersweet aspect to this transition. The end of our isolated bubble signifies that my daughter is growing up. After 11 months of having front-row seats to her development, I feel a sense of loss as we prepare to send her to daycare. Although I’m grateful for the opportunity, I can’t help but mourn the simplicity of our previous life.
Megan points out, “While the pandemic brought its own set of challenges, we’ve been incredibly fortunate to have so much time with our babies. Now that we know what that experience feels like, saying goodbye to it will be difficult.”
This weekend marks our first family flight to visit relatives in Boston, with subsequent trips planned to Buffalo and Ireland. I’m embarking on these travels later than I had originally thought. However, amid the challenges of the past year, I’ve also experienced joy in savoring those precious moments with my daughter, allowing us to exist at a slower pace before diving back into the bustling world outside.
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In summary, transitioning into motherhood during the pandemic has been a unique journey filled with both challenges and rewards. As I step back into public life with my baby, I feel a mix of nervousness and nostalgia, reflecting on the precious moments we’ve shared in our little bubble.