As I hit middle age, it seems my chin hair is sprouting at a faster rate than my leg hair. Fortunately, it’s not a full-on bush yet, just a few stray white strands that I can’t help but obsessively pluck. (I’ve even stashed tweezers in my desk at work, alongside fiber powder—hinting at the direction my life is heading.)
While I strive to maintain a positive outlook, I must confess that middle age presents its own set of frustrations. My body seems to be undergoing changes without warning, and often against my will. Those of us who have celebrated what I like to call “The Milestone” birthday are well aware of some of the changes in store. We’ve been warned about our hair becoming brittle, our skin aging, and our midsections gaining independence. We know our hands will reveal our true age, regardless of how much moisturizer we use.
However, there are some surprising challenges that nobody seems to mention. For instance, can someone explain why no one warns us that restful sleep may become a distant memory? Most of us are still recovering from the sleep deprivation of early motherhood, only to face the reality that sleep is crucial for weight management. The irony is almost painful. Who knew that 90-minute “naps” would become my new nighttime norm?
Every night, I find myself either too hot or too cold, tossing and turning, and my partner and I, who upgraded to a king-sized bed, often find ourselves battling for space due to our aches and temperature preferences. It’s a struggle, to say the least.
And then there’s the issue of bathroom habits, which seems to make a sudden reappearance just as we think we’ve left diapers behind. I used to be able to go an entire weekend without a bathroom break, but now, just when I thought I had a handle on it, I find myself surprised by unexpected events in the restroom. My doctor’s solution? Fiber. If you’re wondering why I keep fiber powder handy, now you know.
Yet, entering this new phase of life has brought its share of silver linings. Motherhood at this age is a unique experience. Our children are growing into remarkable individuals, and instead of just being caregivers, we can now engage with them as companions. We can play adult games and watch films that don’t require a pillow for cover.
I’ve evolved as a parent, becoming more relaxed and understanding. Instead of raising my voice in frustration, I’ve learned to speak softly—almost like a villain from a thriller movie. Trust me, it’s surprisingly effective.
Middle age also grants us the freedom to disregard trends and societal expectations. We’ve reached a point where we can confidently embrace our quirks, whether it’s our choice of minivans or mom jeans. I don’t care about the latest chart-topping songs, and I’m content with my classic rock presets.
However, one of the most profound changes that comes with reaching The Milestone is the relentless reminder of time’s passage. It’s an unsettling realization that can strike unexpectedly. I once came across a meme that read, “One day you will pick up your child for the very last time and not even know it.” That thought haunted me for days. When was the last time I lifted my child onto my hip?
The bittersweet memories often arise during mundane moments, like watching old videos of my children. Seeing my youngest self from years ago made me acutely aware of how quickly time flies. The sight of my little one has morphed into a young adult, leaving me grappling with the speed of this transition.
Despite the physical changes—like crow’s feet and the inevitable muffin top—what truly unsettles me is how fast life is racing by. I would gladly trade any bathroom troubles for the chance to slow down time.
In summation, middle age offers a blend of trials and triumphs. While there are undeniable challenges, such as the realities of bodily changes and the ticking clock that reminds us of our fleeting time, there are also incredible joys in witnessing our children grow and evolve. It’s a bittersweet journey, but one that ultimately enriches our lives.
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