Having four children is a transformative journey that reshapes your life in numerous ways. Here are some insights to prepare you for this exciting adventure.
1. Public Reactions Can Be Amusing
When you venture out with all your kids, expect curious glances and questions that can feel a bit overwhelming. Just the other day, while at a pediatric appointment, I was approached by several individuals who couldn’t help but inquire if all four kids were mine. Yes, indeed! Here’s a taste of the comments you might encounter: “Wow, that’s a lot of kids!” “Did you plan this?” and “Better you than me!” These remarks become part of your daily routine.
2. Your Memory Takes a Hit
Life with four little ones often feels like you’re living out a suspenseful thriller, where remembering simple things becomes a challenge. Your brain resembles an overloaded internet browser with a multitude of tabs open at once. Did I pay that bill? What day is it? Did my youngest eat vegetables this week? With four kids vying for your attention, it’s no wonder some tasks slip through the cracks.
3. Mornings Resemble a Scene from ‘Jumanji’
Getting everyone ready in the morning can feel like a wild game, filled with chaos. Just recently, my partner, Alex, had his first solo morning with the kids, and he described it as “wild.” Picture this: a baby crying, a toddler creating mischief, and a five-year-old struggling to understand basic instructions. It’s a whirlwind that turns into a daily norm, albeit a chaotic one.
4. Nail Clipping Takes on a New Meaning
After managing to clip your nails and then those of your kids, you might realize you’ve just clipped a total of 100 nails. This realization could spark ideas for a fun family band name, perhaps “One Hundred Nails” – we’ll learn instruments after we master the art of putting on shoes!
5. Privacy Becomes a Thing of the Past
Even a quick shower turns into a race against time. I once attempted to enjoy a brief moment of solitude, only to be interrupted by one of my little ones asking if I was done yet. “Just give me two minutes!” I pleaded, but that two minutes turned into a swift exit from the shower to witness a “trick” that involved a blanket jump.
6. Cooking for Picky Eaters
Preparing meals for a brood of discerning taste buds is an adventure in itself. It’s a challenge to find a dish that satisfies everyone, which is why I’m implementing a new rule: they can either say, “Yay! Thanks, Mom!” or simply “OK” when I announce what’s for dinner. Critiques will be met with the possibility of skipping dinner – a lesson in culinary diplomacy!
7. Bath Time Frequency May Decrease
While I won’t confirm my bathing schedule, I’ve heard of moms who let their kids go a few days without a bath. It’s a reasonable approach when you have four kids and bedtime needs to happen, like, yesterday. I admire those moms who prioritize their sanity over strict hygiene routines.
8. The Joy of Expanding Your Heart
Despite the chaos, unsolicited comments, and the daily mess, adding each new child has shown me that love multiplies. Each new baby fills your heart in ways you never thought possible. After a long day, as you unwind with a glass of wine and a snack, you reflect on the beautiful chaos and the precious lives entrusted to you. You wouldn’t change a thing—except maybe having a personal chef to lighten the load!
If you’re on this journey, check out some helpful resources like Women’s Health’s guide on pregnancy or learn about fertility options through this comprehensive guide.
Summary
Raising four kids reshapes your life in unexpected ways, from managing public perceptions to juggling daily chaos. Privacy becomes scarce, cooking turns into a diplomatic endeavor, and your capacity for love expands beyond measure. Despite the challenges, each new addition brings joy and fulfillment that makes every moment worthwhile.