As the holiday season fades and we enter a new year, many of us find ourselves reflecting on the art of giving. It’s not just about selecting the perfect gift or deciding how much to spend; it’s also about understanding when and how to manage these gifts. Let’s talk about what I like to call Parental Gift Etiquette.
Regardless of the occasion—whether it’s a birthday, graduation, or any other celebratory event—children always seem to have their eyes on the latest must-have items that they absolutely can’t live without. As soon as they make their wishes known to us, the negotiation begins. Parents often resort to threats, suggesting that a child might lose out on their coveted gift if they misbehave. For example, “If you speak to me like that again, you can forget about getting that new tablet.” Yet, we all know that, barring extreme circumstances, the child will likely end up with the gift anyway.
Fast-forward to just moments after the gift is unwrapped, and the dynamic shifts yet again. Parents often find themselves reverting back to threats, now implying that the child must return the very gift they just received. “I told you to behave, so hand over that tablet.”
It seems the entire process could use some rethinking. Here’s my suggestion: Why not involve the kids in a more constructive way? Let’s have a conversation where they can choose their favorite gifts, acknowledge that they might misbehave, and agree to skip the acquisition of gifts altogether. This could be a sort of pre-punishment that saves parents both time and money—no tantrums over taking away gifts because they were never received in the first place. I call this approach PRE-gifting.
By establishing a pre-gifting contract, we can settle disputes ahead of time. When the big day arrives, we can simply refer back to this agreement. “Remember the pre-gifting contract? We all agreed that certain behaviors make it impossible to keep gifts.”
Such an easy solution! We can make it clear that any outburst is pointless since we never actually finalized the gift acquisition in the first place.
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In summary, rethinking how we approach gift-giving can simplify parenting. By implementing a pre-gifting strategy, we can avoid unnecessary conflict and make the holiday season more enjoyable for everyone.