As a pediatrician, I still felt a wave of fear when my child needed to go to the emergency room.
In February 2015, my eldest daughter was just 15 months old during Valentine’s week. She had been ill for a few days, and I had a hunch it was a virus, likely RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus), given the illnesses circulating at her school. RSV is a highly contagious virus affecting the respiratory system. While most children only experience mild symptoms, a small fraction can develop serious complications like pneumonia or bronchiolitis.
As a pediatrician and neonatologist, I had witnessed the severe impacts of RSV on young patients, but my daughter had no underlying health issues, so I believed she would recover. My husband, who had heard my discussions about RSV, inquired how I would know if her condition worsened. My answer was simple: “I’ll just know.”
That evening at 6 p.m., my intuition kicked in. I was certain she needed urgent medical care. My husband was occupied with a business call when I interrupted him, saying, “We need to go—now.” He was taken aback but didn’t protest. I remember rushing to the car, urging him to drive faster—running a red light if necessary.
Upon entering the emergency room, I was overwhelmed with fear and uncertainty. This was my daughter, in the very hospital where I worked. I knew the staff and the procedures that awaited us. Even when her oxygen levels dropped into the 70s and they administered more oxygen, I understood they were providing excellent care. Despite my medical expertise and familiarity with the hospital, I was still terrified.
She was admitted to the Pediatric ICU, and fortunately, the on-call doctor was a colleague I respected. His presence reassured me, and I felt a wave of relief knowing she was in capable hands. After three days of treatment, she was discharged with oxygen support and made a full recovery.
Fast forward to January 2020, when my son presented symptoms similar to those my daughter had years earlier. The girls were asleep, so my husband stayed home while I took him to the ER. This time, it wasn’t flu or RSV but another virus that required oxygen. We were admitted for oxygen and IV fluids. Having navigated the hospital stay with my eldest, I was more prepared and less anxious this time. Still, seeing the doctor walk in brought me immediate comfort.
Tips for Managing a Hospital Stay with Young Children
So, why am I sharing this experience? When your child is hospitalized, there are several strategies that can ease the stress of being a parent. Here are my top tips for managing a hospital stay with young children:
- Seek Familiar Faces: If your child has a history of medical issues or previous NICU stays, seeing a nurse or doctor you recognize can bring immense comfort. While it’s not always possible, knowing someone who has cared for your child can ease anxiety.
- Understand the Process: If you find yourself in the emergency room, be prepared for triage, where the most critically ill patients are seen first. You will likely need to recount your child’s symptoms multiple times. Expect to navigate a “hurry up and wait” scenario as tests are conducted, and results are awaited.
- Prioritize Sleep: Hospitals are noisy environments with constant beeping monitors and staff checking in at all hours. To get some rest, consider bringing your own pillow for the couch and wear comfortable clothes. Remember to sleep when your child sleeps; your well-being is vital in providing care.
- Bring Entertainment: Don’t forget your phone or tablet (with a charger) for movies, reading, or news. Consider bringing books or magazines to divert your attention from the hospital sounds.
- Ask for Takeout Options: After a day or two of hospital food, you’ll crave something else. Nurses usually know the best local restaurants for delivery, so ask for recommendations. Also, keep a water bottle handy to stay hydrated.
- Accept Help: It’s often difficult to ask for assistance, but when someone offers to help, say yes. Whether it’s someone sitting with your child or bringing food, accepting help can alleviate stress.
- Advocate for Your Child: Always seek clarification about your child’s care. If you don’t understand a test result or procedure, ask questions. Keep notes and actively participate in your child’s care.
- Take It Day by Day: Each day will have its highs and lows. Focus on the positives rather than worrying about potential setbacks. This approach will help maintain your mental health and improve your interactions with medical staff and family.
Hospital visits can be daunting, but with some preparation and patience, you can navigate the experience more smoothly. Don’t forget to take care of yourself while focusing on your child’s health. Remember, children are resilient and can surprise us with their strength.
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Summary: Navigating a child’s hospital stay can be a daunting experience, even for healthcare professionals. Drawing from personal experiences, this article provides essential tips for parents to manage stress, seek help, and maintain mental well-being while ensuring their child’s care. Recognizing the need for familiar faces, understanding hospital processes, and advocating for your child are crucial to easing the burden during such challenging times.