When I’m out running errands with my son, he often needs to use the bathroom. On occasion, so do I. Back when he was little, no one batted an eye when I took him into the women’s restroom. In fact, he was just one of many young boys in there with their mothers. Frankly, I didn’t care about the other kids; my focus was on my own needs.
But now, my son is growing up fast. I mean, how inconsiderate of him to mature! I still wish he were that little guy in a colorful onesie, stomping around in his chunky toddler shoes, charging off like a miniature warrior whenever someone turned on one of those terrifying hand dryers.
Now, I’m faced with a lanky teenager who stands at 5’4” with hairy legs and a voice that’s deepening by the minute. So why does he still come into the women’s room with me? Because I refuse to let him go into most public bathrooms alone. I’ve even started planning my errands around single-stall restrooms that I know are safe for him.
It’s not just about his safety; I have to go too. The idea of darting into one restroom while he’s in another gives me anxiety, especially knowing that women’s restrooms always seem to have longer lines. Seriously, what are we all doing in there that takes so much time? Oh, right — we’re often managing our kids while we’re at it.
So, if you see my son entering the women’s bathroom with me, please understand it’s necessary. You have two options: either accept it or advocate for more family-friendly, gender-neutral restrooms. After all, everyone deserves the same level of consideration when it comes to their needs, whether it’s mine, my son’s, or anyone else’s.
My son has autism and intellectual disabilities, which means I have to keep a close eye on him. I’m not trying to invade anyone’s space; I’m just doing what’s best for his safety. If you’re worried about him seeing you not wash your hands, that’s a reflection on you, not us.
And let’s be honest — I’m not thrilled about this either. He’s 13 and doesn’t want to be seen with his mom in the bathroom. I notice the glances from other women as he walks in behind me. Rest assured, I’ll make sure he puts the seat down. I’m doing my best to raise him right.
After all this time, I’m past caring about the judgment we might receive. I might even joke with you, “Take a picture; it’ll last longer.” What would you prefer I do? Stay home? Compromise his safety? Not go to the bathroom? Sorry, but I’m not risking a UTI for anyone’s comfort.
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In summary, my teenage son’s presence in the bathroom with me is a necessary reality. We all need to prioritize safety and understanding in public spaces, and until more family-friendly facilities are available, this arrangement will remain.