In a world that often seeks to categorize relationships and identities, labels abound. Are you feeling joyful? Are you content or distressed? Are you alone or in a partnership? Are you a parent? The inclination to label helps many make sense of their surroundings, but in the realm of stepparenting, such labels can be fraught with complexity and misunderstandings.
As a stepmother, I have chosen to keep things uncomplicated. I do not insist that my stepson refer to me by a specific title other than my name, which is Sarah. If he were to read this, he would recognize that he doesn’t have to call me ‘mom’ or even ‘stepmom’ if he prefers not to. I am simply Sarah.
The absence of a title does not diminish the contributions I have made. I have been the one to listen, to care, and to adapt to what my stepson needs at any given time. Some days, my presence might be minimal, while on others, I may need to compensate for what is lacking. There are also times when we can simply enjoy each other’s company.
Being labeled as “mom” is not a requirement for any of these actions. I don’t need that title to comfort him when he’s unwell, to prepare his lunch, or to sense when something troubles him. My heart swells with pride at his achievements, regardless of what name he chooses to call me.
A label will never define my commitment or my growth as a person. I continually evolve, learning from my experiences, regardless of the title bestowed upon me. Society will always seek to categorize me, and while judgments may follow, I find solace in the fact that my stepson understands I don’t require a special name to feel valued or to love him unconditionally.
A child’s role is to grow and move forward in life. Whether I am seen as a stepmother, guardian, or caregiver, my purpose has been to support and educate him. Eventually, he will set out on his own journey, equipped with the skills I have helped him develop. He will know that my support will always be there, like the wind beneath his wings. He can carry on without ever needing to call me ‘mom,’ and that love will remain eternal.
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Summary:
In the realm of step-parenting, the absence of a label does not diminish the emotional bond or commitment felt between a stepmom and her stepson. The author emphasizes that love and support transcend titles. The relationship is built on understanding and mutual respect, allowing each individual to thrive without the need for specific labels.