Recently, I posed a question to my wife, Sara, inquiring whether she considered me her best friend. She looked at me with a bemused expression, as if my question was absurd, and said, “Of course.” Her reply was so straightforward that it almost made me feel foolish for asking. “What prompted that?” she added.
I found myself at a loss for words. Lately, I had been reflecting on our life together and how my circle of friends has diminished significantly. With the demands of parenting, work, and our marriage, I rarely have time to connect with friends. When I do find a moment of free time, I prefer to spend it with Sara because I genuinely enjoy her company.
This isn’t uncommon for couples at our stage in life. Many of our friends have similarly found less time for socializing outside their families. It’s not a bad thing; it’s just the reality for many of us.
But there was a time when Sara and I weren’t as close. Like many couples, our early years of marriage were filled with conflict. After the birth of our first child, we were both overwhelmed and exhausted, and I even questioned whether we would stay together. Back then, I sought refuge with friends, looking for escapes to clear my mind.
However, as we navigated through various life challenges together—moving states, pursuing degrees, having more children, purchasing a home, and even becoming vegetarians—we developed a friendship that is unparalleled.
I had a best friend before marriage, but nothing compares to the bond I have with Sara. It wasn’t until after a decade of marriage that I truly grasped the essence of true friendship. Now, as we approach 14 years together, I can’t imagine anyone else I’d rather converse with on any topic. No one else has my back quite like she does, listens as attentively, or shares joy in my presence.
What prompted my question was a desire for reassurance. I realize this may seem insecure, but my upbringing has influenced my perspective. My parents went through multiple marriages and never seemed to forge lasting friendships with their partners. They never stayed committed long enough to experience the profound connection that can develop through shared struggles and triumphs.
I often contemplate my parents’ relationships, a common reflection for children of divorce. While I acknowledge that some marriages are best ended, I firmly believe that when two mature individuals who genuinely care for each other commit to a partnership and are willing to put in the effort, a beautiful friendship blossoms. This companionship is among the most gratifying experiences I’ve had.
Sara’s affirmation of my feelings was heartening. When she asked why I felt that way, I simply said, “I’m not sure. You’re my best friend, and I wanted to know if you felt the same. It sounds silly.” She leaned closer and kissed me, responding, “It’s not silly.”
We chatted about everyday matters, then she asked, “Shall we watch that baking show tonight?”
“I’d rather not,” I replied, as I’m not a fan.
“But you will because you’re my best friend, right?” she teased.
With a roll of my eyes, I conceded, “Yes, but we’re watching that sci-fi series tomorrow.”
“Fine, but only because we’re best friends,” she laughed.
“Maybe we should get friendship bracelets,” I joked.
She shot me a look that clearly said, “Don’t push it.”
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Summary:
Navigating the complexities of marriage can lead to profound friendships, as shown through one couple’s journey. Reflecting on their relationship, they emphasize the importance of commitment, communication, and shared experiences in fostering a deep bond. This narrative serves as a reminder that true companionship can blossom over time and through challenges.