To all the parents out there who wish they could spend more time at home with their kids but can’t, I completely understand. During the early days of the pandemic, many realized that, despite their love for their children, being a stay-at-home parent wasn’t for them. However, I was different. For the first time, I had the opportunity to be home full-time with my son, and later with my daughter, who was born in June 2020, and I cherished every moment.
Sure, it was tough being home all day—there were afternoons when we were all in tears—but the joy of making lunch, napping together, crafting silly projects, and exploring nature as our “school” was priceless. I never expected how painful it would be to return to the office and leave my children.
Since going back, I’ve been trying to find a way to work from home again. Quitting isn’t an option since my income helps pay the bills, but I feel like there has to be a solution out there. Recently, I thought that maybe transitioning to part-time work could be the answer: I’d still earn a paycheck while enjoying more time with my kids and saving on daycare costs.
However, the reality of part-time work is complex. Not only are hours fewer, but the pay is often significantly less than full-time positions, making it difficult to find roles that meet my financial needs. I finally mustered the courage to ask my boss about the possibility of reducing my hours to part-time in my current job.
This seemed like a win-win situation. I’m usually productive, often finding myself with spare time at work, and after crunching the numbers, I saw that with reduced childcare expenses, our finances would remain stable. I had prepared a solid argument about how this change would not only benefit my family but also allow me to maintain or even increase my productivity, referencing a recent study from Iceland.
To my dismay, when I approached my supervisor, my request was dismissed almost immediately. I was met with a barrage of claims suggesting that my job might be in jeopardy if I pursued part-time work. I was told I should look for employment elsewhere if I was unhappy, which left me feeling dejected and embarrassed.
It’s disheartening to feel undervalued as both an employee and a parent. I knew rejection was a possibility, but the complete lack of consideration for my request was shocking. It felt less about productivity and more about my supervisor’s fears regarding hypothetical situations.
This experience has reinforced my belief that despite the discussions surrounding support for working parents, meaningful changes in the workplace are far from imminent. It seems that employers are not ready to embrace flexibility or fair policies for part-time work.
While tomorrow might bring new hope, today I’m left feeling angry, sad, and disappointed. I realize that all my hard work toward my career—significant student debt and countless hours away from my children—seems to mean little to my employer. They appear to prioritize merely filling a position over valuing the contributions of their employees.
I know other parents share these feelings, and I want you to know I understand your struggles.
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In summary, my attempt to transition to part-time work was met with an unyielding rejection, highlighting the challenges many parents face in trying to balance professional responsibilities and family life. The experience left me feeling undervalued and disheartened, prompting me to reflect on the lack of support for working parents in today’s workforce.