Once upon a time, I was diligent about my haircuts and had perfectly manicured nails. My wardrobe didn’t consist solely of yoga pants and vintage tees, and my underwear drawer was filled with matching lacy sets—not the rushed purchases from Target. My figure was toned and fit, with perky breasts that didn’t require industrial-strength undergarments. I wore bikinis without a second thought, confident that they would fit perfectly.
But that time has faded into the past. Now, I find myself looking in the mirror and seeing a body marked by the realities of motherhood—stretch marks and C-section scars that tell a story of life lived. I used to feel “good naked,” but these days, I’m less confident in that regard. Yet, despite these changes, my partner still expresses a strong attraction to me.
He insists that I’m still as appealing as I was when we first met. While I know he’s being overly generous, his affection remains unwavering, and he continues to pull me close and ask, “Wanna?” just like he did in our earlier days. He sees beyond my perceived flaws and appreciates the deeper emotional connection we’ve built over the years.
Our physical intimacy has transformed; it’s no longer about the elaborate moments but rather the quick encounters snatched between the demands of parenting. We’ve exchanged candlelit nights for stolen moments during naptime or when the kids are tucked in early. Our bodies may no longer resemble those of our youthful selves, but the intimacy we share remains as fulfilling as ever.
This isn’t to say we’ve neglected our health—we both stay active and do our best to counteract the effects of aging. However, the reality is that my partner’s abs have disappeared, and my own body is on an inevitable journey of change. Surprisingly, embracing our “bad naked” status has been freeing; it allows us to approach our physicality with humor and acceptance.
Acknowledging our evolving bodies has fostered a more open dialogue about intimacy. I revel in the affection of a partner who appreciates me—flaws and all. He’s witnessed me at my most vulnerable, and yet he still looks at me with desire, even when I’m clad in postpartum mesh underwear or struggling with my changed physique.
So yes, our days of looking “good naked” are behind us, but I’ve found joy in this new phase of our relationship. The “bad naked” is not something to fear; it’s become a source of liberation and connection.
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In summary, as our bodies have changed over the years, so too has our intimacy. We embrace the imperfections that come with time, finding joy and connection in our “bad naked” moments. This acceptance has enriched our relationship, making our love deeper and more fulfilling.