I’m unapologetically candid about my language. Those who clutch their pearls at a mere hint of a curse word may label me a poor parent, but to them, I say, “whatever.” My children, in fact, don’t bat an eye at my occasional F-bombs. They’ve grown so accustomed to my language that it’s hardly a blip on their radar. They still eagerly ask me to tuck them in each night, regardless of how many times I’ve dropped the F-bomb that day. They squabble over who gets to sit next to me, even if my response involves an unintentional “Fuck!” They care little about my choice of words; they simply adore me.
Adult Words Are Not Bad Words
In the grand scheme of things, while there are certainly places where swearing is inappropriate, in our everyday lives, I see no harm in letting a few fly. It’s a common occurrence where we live, and some studies suggest that those who curse are often more creative, intelligent, and honest — not that I’m boasting, just sharing some interesting observations. My children, aside from a brief phase when they were toddlers, do not use swear words. In our home, we refer to them as “adult words,” and my kids are aware that they can use them appropriately when they’re older.
It’s amusing to see how some people feel compelled to scold me, insisting that parents should set a good example. I wholeheartedly agree, and I’m mindful of the language I use around my daughters. I hope they come to appreciate the versatility of certain words in our rich language.
The Judgment
What truly irks me is how some self-righteous individuals label me a bad parent based solely on my vocabulary. Here’s the truth: Don’t mess with my family. If you’re judging a parent, perhaps consider using more relevant metrics, like their warmth or how well they connect with their children. My daughters are growing into wonderful individuals—smart, funny, and thriving in an environment that encourages authenticity and self-expression.
Recently, one judgmental individual warned me that my swearing would lead to my kids resenting me and becoming societal nuisances. I couldn’t disagree more; they’re too busy showering me with love and affection. I host lively playdates, coach soccer teams, and whip up delicious pancakes. Plus, I’ve mastered the art of muttering expletives under my breath, so you can rest easy about my swearing around kids who aren’t mine.
A common misconception is that I speak to my kids abusively. Most of my swearing is general, like “Ugh! We’re running late!” or “I’m so incredibly tired.” I would never direct an insult at them, like calling them names for hitting each other or making an embarrassing noise at the dinner table.
To the naysayers: Humor is essential in life. Self-expression varies from person to person, and I’d much prefer my children to occasionally use a colorful word than make choices like stretching their earlobes with gauged earrings. If they feel the need to express themselves, so be it; just avoid getting facial tattoos! It’s all about perspective and the bigger picture, focusing on whether they’re good people. And should one of them decide to get a tattoo on her face, you’ll hear me drop a handful of expletives.
I’m unbothered by people who disagree with my vocabulary choices. However, my children should be left out of the judgment. Those who have a problem with my language can hold their criticism until they see any signs of neglect or abuse; a few adult words here and there? Get over it. Everything I do is for the well-being of my kids, so please find a more worthy cause to get worked up about. A few expletives never harmed anyone.
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Summary
In conclusion, my use of strong language doesn’t negatively impact my children; rather, it occurs in a context of love and understanding. I encourage self-expression and humor in our household, promoting a healthy environment for my daughters. Those who critique my parenting based on a few choice words miss the bigger picture of nurturing happy, well-adjusted children.