Introduction
Many of my narratives revolve around the remarkable women who have shaped my life. While my mother stands as my greatest inspiration, I was fortunate to grow up surrounded by incredible grandmothers and great aunts. Their vibrant spirits have fueled countless stories, including my latest film, “Shattered Silence.”
Like my grandmothers, the women I portray in my work bear their burdens with grace and strength. Although my grandmothers didn’t indulge in high heels or makeup, my mother certainly did. She would never step out, not even for a quick trip to the corner shop, without dressing impeccably. Her mantra was, “I refuse to wear frumpy clothes. I don’t have to look how I feel!” This sentiment has deeply influenced me.
The Struggle with Vulnerability
I often grapple with the challenge of opening up to those around me, feeling the need to remain strong and not burden others with my challenges. Over the past decade, in moments of solitude, I’ve thought of the quiet women who carried their struggles with dignity, dedicating their lives to others, and it has helped me recognize my own privileges. It wasn’t too long ago that women had very limited freedoms, and my grandmothers, along with my mother, lived through those times.
A Moment of Reflection
My journey of reflection began over ten years ago when I held a sprig of thyme in my hand, feeling a wave of comfort, tranquility, and a hint of sadness. After discussing it with my mom, I learned that my grandmother used to brew thyme tea for me. My mom explained that thyme is known for calming nerves and soothing the mind. I decided to make some for myself—something I hadn’t done since immigrating to the States three decades ago—and those memories came flooding back.
How often do we find ourselves overwhelmed by the complexities of life, feeling as if we lack control? I won’t list my struggles, as they can be quite overwhelming, but like many, I’ve often wondered where I draw my strength from to persevere. I’ve realized that inspiration can come from the most unexpected places.
Honoring My Grandmother’s Legacy
The aroma of thyme and the act of drinking the tea brought me back to my grandmother, Milena, and her life. After her husband departed when my mother was just five, she was left to raise five children alone. In the 1960s, it was frowned upon for women to work, as it was believed to tarnish their reputation. To protect hers and ensure her daughters could marry well, she managed an old watermill by herself.
People would come to her for grain grinding, often leaving food in lieu of payment to support her family. She single-handedly raised five children, put them through school, and eventually saw them all married off—an important milestone during those times. Milena was not only an exceptional cook but also a nurturing, loving woman with a wonderful sense of humor. I will always cherish the memory of our last goodbye, marked by her kind blue eyes. Each time I smell thyme or sip that tea, I feel her love and remember that my challenges are minor in comparison to what she endured.
Yes, I maintained my day job for years—a complicating factor in my life—before fully pursuing my passions. Yet, when I reflect on my grandmother’s inability to work freely to support her children, I am reminded to appreciate the choices I have. The memories of those extraordinary women—the unsung heroes—prompt me to pause and acknowledge how much more they faced and how they still made the best of their circumstances.
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Summary
In reflecting on the lives of my grandmothers, I find strength and perspective on my own challenges. Their resilience and ability to navigate hardships inspire me to appreciate the freedoms and choices I have today. By honoring their legacies, I am reminded to embrace my journey with gratitude and courage.