Updated: Oct. 12, 2020
Originally Published: June 15, 2017
Back in the ’80s, fifth-grade graduations weren’t a thing. But fast forward to today, and it seems like they’ve become quite the spectacle.
I first learned about this trend when my cousin, who teaches elementary school, visited me. She informed me that fifth-grade graduations are now a “big deal.” When she described little kids donning tuxedos, wedding gowns, and even renting limousines for the occasion, I was taken aback. It felt excessive. If I had celebrated my fifth-grade graduation with a limo, what would I expect for my high school graduation or my wedding?
Sure, every grade deserves recognition, but my kids won’t be riding in a luxury vehicle or dressing to the nines for an event at such a young age. Seriously?
When I graduated fifth grade, my celebration was simple. My parents treated me to a Quarter Pounder Value Meal at McDonald’s instead of my usual Happy Meal, and I was over the moon. That day was filled with joy, ice cream, and catching fireflies instead of worrying about dinner. Pure bliss.
I understand times have changed, but it feels like everything has turned into an extravagant event. Sports aren’t just about playing anymore; we send our kids to camps and sign them up for private lessons. School dances have morphed into elaborate prom proposals, complete with expensive outfits and professional photos. Graduation parties have evolved from backyard barbecues to lavish events in rented halls.
While I fully support everyone celebrating milestones in their own way, we must consider the pressure we place on ourselves and our children to glamorize every single occasion. This trend sends a message that everything must be bigger, better, and more expensive. Are we losing the joy in spontaneous moments? Are we making it harder for families who can’t afford these luxuries to feel less-than? Absolutely.
If planning a big celebration brings you joy, go for it! But if it leads to stress and envy among children over who has the grander party, it’s time to rethink things. Celebrations should be enjoyable, not a source of anxiety. I’m saying no to extravagant wedding-style celebrations for every milestone because I simply can’t afford it, nor do I want to.
Let’s keep the focus on fun and simplicity rather than getting swept up in the pressure to keep up with the Joneses.
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In summary, while recognizing achievements is important, let’s not lose sight of what truly matters: the joy of the moment and the experiences we create together.