My 16-year-old son, who usually needs a gentle push to get moving in the right direction, has absolutely no interest in obtaining his driver’s license. It’s not that he doesn’t want it; rather, he seems to be actively undermining his chances of getting one.
According to his driver’s education instructor, while she is no longer apprehensive about getting in the car with him, he still makes “bizarre choices” while driving. She reassured me that he poses no real danger, but he often does things like pull over to grab a piece of gum or come to a stop sign, shift into park, rev the engine, and laugh.
This peculiar behavior isn’t limited to the road. It seems all his shoes have vanished, leaving him with only his flip-flops—definitely not ideal for a teenager who isn’t quite sure which pedal is the brake. When it’s time for practice, he magically falls into his signature “possum” sleep, a state he can conjure whenever he wants to avoid a required task. At this rate, I often think he may never attain that coveted driver’s license.
He is, of course, driving under a bit of pressure, but that’s just how he operates. He’s the type of kid who finds tossing his candy wrappers in the trash (instead of hiding them in the couch) an unnecessary hassle, and he certainly won’t walk the dog unless I threaten to take his phone away.
However, years of gentle coaxing have produced a child who has expressed interest in joining the tennis team this year and has developed a close group of friends after being nudged into theater camp. Even compulsory percussion lessons led him to participate in the marching band, boosting his confidence as he performed a complex, choreographed routine in front of a crowd.
So, it seemed only logical to continue this pattern and require him to get his driver’s license. He’s not interested, but given his limited list of willingly pursued activities, why should that stop us?
I’ve asked him why he behaves this way, but he’s always been somewhat reserved, so direct questions usually result in a shrug. Opting out of the teenage rite of passage of driving appears contrary to everything a typical 16-year-old desires. But does it even matter why he shuns the idea of getting his driver’s license? It’s time for me to accept that, while getting a driver’s license is a significant milestone for many teens, it’s simply not one that my son is eager to achieve.
For now, I’ve decided to remain patient and attentive until he’s ready to open up. After all, I don’t want him drifting away from me.
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Summary:
Navigating the challenges of a teenager’s reluctance to drive can be complex. My 16-year-old son displays a distinct lack of interest in obtaining his driver’s license, often undermining his own chances while exhibiting quirky behavior. Despite this, I’ve come to realize that it’s crucial to respect his feelings and remain patient and supportive until he’s ready to engage in conversations about it.