As my mother set the dinner table, my father paused to announce something my siblings and I had anticipated but dreaded. “I received a promotion, everyone! And we’re moving to Florida! Isn’t that fantastic?” While my younger siblings cheered with enthusiasm, I, at the age of 11, could only roll my eyes and push my uneaten peas and carrots around my plate. The thought of relocating yet again meant a new school, new friends, and yet another house. After finally settling into our current city, the prospect of starting over felt overwhelming. That night, I cried into my pillow, dreading the chaos of moving men dismantling our lives and taking us away once more.
By the time I reached college, my family had relocated eight times across the country. We rarely spent more than three years in one place, following my father’s career advancements. Despite the uncertainties brought on by corporate takeovers, he consistently managed to find stable employment that supported us well. However, each takeover stirred the familiar anxiety of impending moves, often leading to discussions around the dinner table about leaving yet another beloved home behind.
When I met my husband, I made it clear that I wanted stability. I envisioned a home where our children would always feel secure, a place where I could reminisce about finding something in the basement I had stored there two decades ago. Although we did have to move for his first job, my wish for stability came true: we’ve lived in the same town for 17 years, marking the longest I’ve ever stayed in one place.
Now that I’m a parent, I’ve started to recognize the advantages of my childhood moves. While my children are benefitting from the stability of our small town and the friendships that come with it, I sometimes question if I’ve deprived them of the enriching experiences that come from moving. Though challenging, my childhood relocations were filled with valuable lessons that have remained with me.
If you find yourself contemplating a move for a professional opportunity, consider these points:
- Exposure to Different Cultures: My early moves primarily occurred along the East Coast and Mid-Atlantic, but relocating to the South opened my eyes to a different way of life. The traditions, landscapes, and customs felt almost foreign, yet I embraced them. I developed a love for country music and discovered that I can rarely find authentic Mexican food unless I’m back in Texas.
- Social Skills Development: Being the new kid was often daunting, but it also brought excitement. On my first day in a new school, classmates would often showcase their best selves, inviting me to join them at lunch or sharing resources to help me acclimate. I learned to use humor to break the ice and became comfortable in new social settings—skills I still rely on today.
- Friendships Across the Nation: Having lived in various cities, I made friends from coast to coast. These connections have allowed for enjoyable reunions during travels, whether it’s a quick catch-up during a layover or visiting friends in their hometowns. It’s reassuring to know that I can connect with someone I’ve known since elementary school while traveling for work or leisure.
- Educational Enrichment Through Travel: My parents ensured we explored our new surroundings, visiting state parks, landmarks, and local attractions. My father planned trips to nearby cities, instilling a sense of adventure in me that I now pass on to my kids. Whether it’s revisiting a favorite restaurant at the Grand Canyon or introducing my children to the majestic redwood trees, I cherish the wanderlust he nurtured in me.
While I appreciate the roots we’ve established, I occasionally feel the urge to explore new cities so my kids can experience life from various perspectives. However, the thought of packing up 17 years of memories makes me pause, reminding me of the incredible effort my mother put into relocating eight times with three children. For now, I’ll settle for cross-country road trips with my family because living out of boxes and not knowing where the coffeepot is located can be quite frustrating.
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In summary, while moving can be daunting for school-age children, it can also provide enriching experiences that foster resilience, adaptability, and lifelong friendships. Embracing change may lead to new adventures and personal growth.