A 2020 Gallup poll reveals that married or partnered heterosexual couples in the U.S. continue to distribute household chores along traditional lines. Women are primarily responsible for laundry (58%), house cleaning (51%), and meal preparation (51%).
Honestly, this is infuriating. Guys, you’re making me look bad. For years, I’ve discussed the importance of egalitarian relationships, where men actively contribute to household duties, but it seems many of you are just paying lip service. When it comes to practical tasks like vacuuming, you seem to disappear.
Seriously, what’s going on? This is not the 1950s. It’s 2020, and women make up almost half of the U.S. workforce. Yet, they still bear the brunt of household responsibilities. Doesn’t that strike you as unjust?
I understand how challenging it can be to juggle parenting, mortgage payments, and student loans, especially with both partners working. I’m in the same boat, balancing two jobs while my partner, Sarah, is a full-time teacher, which entails endless grading and lesson planning.
The argument of “I bring home the bacon” is no longer valid. If your partner works full time, you have no excuse to avoid household chores. Who do you think you are?
Just last night, I unloaded and loaded the dishwasher, vacuumed, and folded laundry. It took me just about an hour in total—less time than it takes to watch an episode of a series on Netflix. And guess what? After that, Sarah and I had the time to relax and enjoy a show together.
It seems to me that many men are supportive of women’s equality in the workplace, but when it comes to sharing the load at home, they check out. Enough is enough. It’s time to step up and take responsibility.
No one expects you to do all the chores, but sharing the household duties equally is a must—especially in families where both parents are working outside the home.
This is what equality looks like today. Expecting your partner to work outside and still manage the majority of household chores is not just unfair; it’s a form of servitude. This is why your partner might be giving you the cold shoulder, feeling overwhelmed while you’re distracted on your phone.
It’s probably also why she’s not in the mood for intimacy. Would you want to be with someone who expects you to carry an unequal burden? That’s likely the least attractive thing ever.
I envision a world where couples can look at each other and say, “We share our responsibilities equally.” How fantastic would that be? But we’re not there yet.
Take a moment to reflect on those statistics. Sure, there are men who contribute equally at home, and that’s commendable. But for those of you who believe it’s “women’s work,” it’s time to change your mindset. If you’re unsure if you’re doing your share, just ask your partner. Don’t hesitate! She’ll have thoughts on the matter, and it’s time to listen. If you find out you’re not contributing enough, make adjustments. Your relationship may very well depend on it.
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Summary
This article discusses the ongoing imbalance in household chores between men and women, highlighting the need for equality in domestic responsibilities. It urges men to actively participate in household duties, especially when both partners are working, and emphasizes that shared labor is key to a healthy relationship.