By: Jamie Thompson
Date: Jan. 20, 2023
Image Credit: Aleksandar Nakic / Getty
Here’s an interesting tidbit: since my engagement, I’ve refrained from writing about marriage, primarily because I feel woefully unqualified to discuss it.
Recently, my partner, Alex, and I marked five years of marriage. While this may seem like a minor milestone in the vast timeline of life, it is still significant.
Insights from Five Years of Marriage
So, what insights have I gained during these five years? Assuming you continue reading, I would say I’ve discovered that I know next to nothing about marriage. The dreams I once held about what a husband should embody and how I would fit the role of a wife turned out to be largely unrealistic.
Now, don’t misunderstand me—perhaps your marriage is a fairy tale and fulfills all your expectations. If you’ve been married for a few years and feel this way, I would love to hear your advice; it would certainly be appreciated.
The Challenges of Love
One of the toughest lessons I’ve had to learn is that although we love each other unconditionally, genuinely liking one another at times proves challenging (trust me, I’ve made every effort). And yes, this sentiment is mutual.
The “charming” quirks we found endearing during our dating phase and early marriage can lose their allure over time. We’ve both matured and evolved; some changes are positive, while others indicate areas needing improvement.
We’ve faced our share of challenges—some typical, others that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. We are two flawed individuals navigating an imperfect marriage. Yet here we are, five years in. It’s tough, folks. I will not sugarcoat it; our marriage is far from a fairytale.
The Reality of Marriage
It’s not always about butterflies, fun, or romance. It’s not consistently picturesque. It’s certainly not a state of wedded bliss. But it is profoundly real. This man knows every facet of me—the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of my soul. He understands my opinions, my insecurities, and my imperfections. He is aware of my past, present, and dreams for the future. While he may not always appreciate every aspect, he chooses to be with me, and I choose him every day.
I like to believe this recognition of the gap between expectations and reality signifies personal growth. However, one thing is certain: after five years of marriage, we are still navigating our journey. It’s a wonderfully challenging experience learning to coexist with another person who has different views, pet peeves, and interests.
Love and Growth
Love isn’t always glamorous. Yet, it is always worth the effort. This man—he’s worth the struggle. Our marriage is worth the hard work. Each day we grow a little better at this marriage thing—becoming a tad wiser and more realistic.
We laugh, we argue, we love. This is what marriage looks like five years in. And I would gladly do it all over again. Here’s to many more years together, my love.
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Summary
Marriage is a complex journey that requires effort, understanding, and growth. While it may not always align with the idealized notions of bliss, it offers a profound connection and the opportunity to learn and grow with a partner. Embracing the reality of marriage can lead to a fulfilling and meaningful relationship.