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By Lila Carter
Updated: Jan. 11, 2021
Originally Published: Sep. 27, 2015
To those not experiencing bed rest, the idea might seem like a dream come true—spending days in pajamas without a care in the world. However, the reality is far from idyllic. The reason for this confinement is often the health of a developing baby, which can be terrifying. Besides the anxiety, your friend could also be grappling with boredom, discomfort, and a sense of helplessness—made worse by those who offer help but fail to follow through.
If you have a friend navigating the challenges of bed rest, here are several ways to support her during this difficult time:
Show Empathy
This is not the moment to express envy over her situation, even if you secretly wish for a break. Acknowledge her worries about her baby and give her space to share her fears and frustrations. It’s essential for her to know you recognize that this experience is anything but fun, especially when others may be telling her how “lucky” she is.
Your Presence is Valuable
Human interaction is incredibly important. Keep her updated on the latest happenings outside her home, as it helps her feel connected. Consider organizing a schedule for friends to visit regularly, and if possible, arrange for group outings to lift her spirits.
Ensure Comfort
Bed rest can be physically uncomfortable. Help create a cozy environment with plush pillows, soft blankets, and warm socks. Consider surprising her with a visit from a professional masseuse for some much-needed relaxation.
Combat Boredom
With ample time on her hands, she’ll need engaging activities. A Netflix subscription can be a lifesaver; recommend binge-worthy shows or gift her a card for e-books or fun games (Candy Crush, anyone?). Regular visits with games to play together or virtual chats can also provide entertainment. If she’s up for it, organize a pajama party with a group of friends!
Provide Pampering
The reality of bed rest can diminish her sense of self. Gift her comfortable sleepwear or a stylish robe to make her feel a bit more presentable. Bring along some dry shampoo or scented lotion, and perhaps even host a mini spa day with manicures and facials to help her feel rejuvenated.
Consider the Kids
If she has older children, they might be missing her attention. Bring activities like coloring books or games she can enjoy with them from bed. Offer to take them out for ice cream or help with their extracurricular activities.
Support Her Partner
Her partner is likely taking on extra responsibilities, which can be overwhelming. Offer to run errands, drive her to appointments, or watch the kids for a few hours to give her partner some well-deserved time off.
Assist with Household Tasks
Domestic chores can pile up quickly. Your friend will feel a great deal of relief knowing someone is helping out by tackling laundry, taking out the trash, or walking the dog.
Be There for the Long Haul
Some women may be on bed rest for just a few days, while others might need it for the entirety of their pregnancy. Initially, friends and family may shower her with support, but that can wane over time. Staying consistent in your help, no matter how long it takes, will mean the world to her. If your schedule is tight, consider rallying a group to ensure her needs are met continuously.
In essence, bed rest can be a challenging experience, especially when others mistakenly view it as a leisurely break. Your support is invaluable and appreciated more than you might realize. Reassure her that you have things under control, allowing her to focus solely on the well-being of her baby.
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Summary
Supporting a friend on bed rest requires empathy, companionship, and practical help. By providing comfort, entertainment, pampering, and assistance with household tasks, you can significantly improve her experience. Your consistent support will help her focus on the most important task: caring for her baby.
