Trigger Warning: Abuse
Before diving into the Netflix adaptation of “Maid,” I decided to read the book by Stephanie Land. As someone who grew up with a single mother grappling with financial hardships and immense stress, I found many aspects of the story relatable.
I was aware that the book included references to domestic violence, and I found those sections unsettling. From what I gathered on social media, the series emphasized the theme of domestic abuse, leading many survivors to feel significantly triggered by its portrayal.
While I haven’t experienced spousal violence myself, I wasn’t overly concerned about being triggered when I began watching the show. However, as soon as it started, my heart raced, and emotions resurfaced that I had long buried.
I am a survivor of childhood emotional abuse. I had a stepparent who would unleash rage on my sibling and me, belittling us and making threats. Although she never physically harmed us, her actions—like throwing objects nearby, stomping in anger, and slamming items around—created a terrifying environment. After these episodes, she would withdraw, leaving us in silence for days.
While the protagonist, Alex, in “Maid” faces abuse from her partner, Sean, there were striking similarities to my experiences with my stepparent. Sean often behaves reasonably when sober but can erupt into fury when drunk. He doesn’t resort to physical violence against Alex or their daughter, Maddy, but he shouts and belittles them, demonstrating his rage by punching walls and throwing a bowl of noodles at Alex.
Witnessing such scenarios on screen is markedly different from reading about them or recalling similar events from my past. As I watched, I felt a surge of panic, as if I were reliving those moments.
Watching the series again, alone at home to prepare for this article, I found myself sobbing openly. One particularly poignant scene occurs after Alex leaves Sean, as she seeks shelter for the night with Maddy. When a social worker inquires about her situation, Alex describes Sean’s verbal abuse while a flashback shows him punching a hole in the wall. Yet, she insists he never physically abused her or Maddy.
This moment sent chills down my spine. It’s clear to the audience that Alex has indeed experienced abuse, but emotional abuse can be insidiously easy to dismiss. Many of us are conditioned to believe that abuse only includes physical violence, ignoring the profound effects of emotional harm.
I, too, never recognized my experience as abusive until well into adulthood and after years of therapy. Even now, I grapple with understanding and reconciling my past.
“Maid” is particularly triggering for those who have faced any form of abuse, especially emotional abuse, as it captures the denial and confusion that often accompany such experiences.
If you have found “Maid” difficult to watch or are healing from emotional abuse, please know that your feelings are valid. Emotional abuse is indeed real and can leave deep scars, as painful as those from physical abuse.
If you need support or resources, consider reaching out to organizations that can assist you in finding help. You are not alone; many share similar experiences depicted in “Maid.”
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In summary, “Maid” resonates with many people due to its poignant exploration of domestic and emotional abuse. It highlights the often-overlooked reality of emotional trauma and the importance of recognizing and addressing it. If you relate to the experiences portrayed, remember that support is available.