I have immense appreciation for my friends who share my age. Recently, during a lunch gathering, we shared how one moment we can be emotional and down, the next full of energy, and then suddenly, we feel so irritable that we need some distance from everyone.
I’ve never felt so understood in my life. Since hitting my mid-40s, I’ve noticed that my mood swings are not only more frequent but also much more intense, often catching me off guard. In my younger years, if I was upset, I could usually pinpoint the cause, and my emotions felt far more manageable. Now, talking to my 45-year-old friends about these changes has been so refreshing—it’s a relief to know that I’m not alone in this journey.
Hormones can be quite unpredictable, and there have been countless moments over the past few years when I’ve found myself questioning what was happening to me. I recall my mother going through perimenopause; she would remind my sisters and me daily, and I swore I wouldn’t behave in such an extreme manner. Yet here I am, feeling overwhelmed by the slightest thing.
One friend shared a story about how she drove off from her boyfriend’s place in frustration over a missed donut order, emphasizing that after five years together, he should know her preferences. Another friend wakes up drenched in sweat at 3 a.m., her mind racing and unable to return to sleep, leading to her being short-tempered with others. When I’m with her, it’s comforting to see her displaying similar feelings, and we bond over our shared experiences.
Even in my 30s, I would dismiss talk about hormonal mood swings, thinking, “That won’t happen to me! I’m cheerful and rarely cry!” But let me tell you, the person you are in your 30s has no idea what’s in store for you in your 40s. So buckle up, because the emotional rollercoaster during this phase will give you a whole new perspective on it all.
Understanding the Science Behind Mood Swings
Dr. Lisa Martinez, a board-certified OB/GYN, explains that the fluctuations in hormones during perimenopause are to blame. As estrogen and progesterone levels decline, women may experience irritability, stress, fatigue, forgetfulness, and anxiety. This explains why I find myself asking my kids the same questions repeatedly, crying at the sight of hair on the bathroom floor, or feeling overwhelmed by minor inconveniences.
Dr. Martinez elaborates that low estrogen can impact how our bodies manage serotonin, a key neurotransmitter that influences mood. The drop in progesterone, which helps calm the brain, further complicates things. Sleep deprivation can exacerbate these feelings, and as someone who thrives on a good night’s sleep, I’m struggling since those restful nights have become increasingly rare.
Moreover, these hormonal changes can lead to physical symptoms like hot flashes and weight gain, which can all feel overwhelming. But the good news is that these feelings won’t last forever. Dr. Martinez reassures us that while these symptoms can persist for months or even years, there are ways to alleviate them.
Natural Remedies and Lifestyle Adjustments
Natural alternatives to manage perimenopausal symptoms include black cohosh, which has shown promise in reducing hot flashes and mood swings. Combining it with Vitex (chaste berry) may enhance its effectiveness. Another beneficial supplement is ashwagandha, known for its ability to lower cortisol levels and combat anxiety and depression. A diet rich in vitamin B6 and omega-3 fatty acids can also positively impact mood by boosting serotonin levels. Engaging in practices like yoga and meditation can help manage stress and irritability, as well.
If mood swings become severe, it’s essential to seek help. Dr. Martinez suggests that if they interfere with daily life, medication like antidepressants may be necessary, especially when paired with therapy.
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Summary
As women enter perimenopause, they often face significant mood swings due to hormonal fluctuations. These changes can lead to irritability, anxiety, and sleep disturbances. Understanding these shifts can foster connection and support among friends experiencing similar challenges. Natural remedies, lifestyle adjustments, and seeking medical advice can help manage these symptoms effectively.