I don’t often consider physical confrontation in public spaces, but when I do, it’s usually because of someone exhibiting downright rudeness that makes me want to deliver a swift kick to their ego.
On one of my first solo trips to the store with my newborn son, an offhand remark from a stranger left me seething. My little one, only seven weeks old, began to wail—an urgent, piercing cry that babies sometimes unleash without warning. Trying to be considerate, I maneuvered my cart to the side of the aisle, ready to soothe him.
In the brief ten seconds it took me to lift him out of his carrier, a man pushing his own child in a cart walked by. His son, around four or five, asked with genuine curiosity, “Why is that baby crying?” I smiled at the kid, noticing his concern, but the father, sporting a mullet that was as bristly as his attitude, barked back, “I don’t know, but I wish it would shut up!” His comment, loud enough for the entire aisle to hear, was aimed squarely at me without a glance in my direction.
What did he hope to achieve with that remark? Did he think I’d magically persuade my infant to stop crying just to protect his precious peace? That I would shove a sock in his mouth? Or perhaps he thought his disdain would discourage me from ever shopping in public again? I can only imagine how his son felt, torn between empathy and the harshness of his father’s words.
It’s crucial to remember that parenting is a challenging journey. The last thing a parent needs when dealing with a child’s meltdown is a judgmental glare or unsolicited advice. If my child is misbehaving, believe me, I’m well aware of it. Parents navigate a complex landscape of behaviors and emotions, and sometimes, a moment of calm is all we need to regain control.
Unless a parent is ignoring truly disruptive behavior that affects you directly, a little compassion goes a long way. Harsh looks and snide remarks only add to the stress of an already chaotic situation. As if the tantrum wasn’t enough, now I’m also dealing with the urge to retaliate against you, which is just lovely. If kindness is too much to ask, at least keep quiet—after all, a little empathy is always a better approach.
Parenthood can feel like an uphill battle, and we could all use a little encouragement instead of criticism. A sympathetic smile or a knowing nod can work wonders. Have a lollipop handy? A funny cat video on your phone? Or perhaps a willingness to break out into a silly dance to distract my child? I’m all for it—just throw me a lifeline. Your small gesture means more than you could imagine, and I promise to pay it forward.
As fate would have it, I ended up behind that rude man and his son in the checkout line. My son had calmed down considerably, and when the little boy asked, “Is he happy now?” I replied, “He is, thanks for checking! I wish everyone was as kind as you.” The father didn’t acknowledge me or his son’s sweetness, but I chose to rise above. After all, I wasn’t in the mood for a confrontation.
In a fitting twist, the universe decided to intervene when the man’s debit card was declined. Thanks, universe!
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Summary
In this piece, Jamie Collins shares a personal story about navigating the challenges of parenting in public. The article emphasizes the importance of kindness and understanding from others when dealing with children’s meltdowns. It encourages parents to support one another rather than judge and highlights the need for compassion in difficult moments.