Messages like “Boys will be boys,” “Girls rule,” and “Daddy’s little feminist” appear to promote positive values for children. However, the reality of how progressive these messages truly are is often questionable. We can teach our boys to respect women, advocate for consent, and fight for equal rights. Likewise, we should empower our daughters to embrace their intelligence and appreciate their bodies. Parents have the responsibility to cultivate a bias-free environment while emphasizing the importance of gender equity.
Yet, the notion of gender equality frequently comes with conditions. A child who identifies as a feminist may still harbor homophobic or transphobic views if conversations around gender and sexuality are not inclusive. A study in the American Journal of Preventative Medicine found that teenage boys exposed to progressive gender equality teachings were less likely to perpetrate violence against women, halving the chances of harassment in dating scenarios. However, the study noted a troubling exception: “Gender equitable attitudes were not associated with nonpartner sexual violence and homophobic teasing.” Elizabeth Miller, the study’s lead author, remarked on the unexpected correlation between progressive beliefs and homophobic behavior.
It’s not surprising, given that homophobia and transphobia are deeply ingrained in our culture, often trivialized in media and entertainment. Stereotypical portrayals of queer characters have become commonplace, fostering social acceptability for homophobic bullying and justifications for violence against LGBTQIA+ individuals. One of the researchers, Alison Culyba, suggested that teens might view such behavior as positively aligning with peer norms.
This raises the question: Are our children being taught to love, accept, and advocate for gay and transgender individuals? Can we genuinely support all forms of gender identity if we overlook the rights of transgender individuals?
For years, there have been whispers about J.K. Rowling’s troubling views on transgender issues, particularly concerning transgender women. As a fan, I hoped these were mere misunderstandings. However, her tweets—including one supporting a woman who was fired for asserting the binary nature of biological sex—confirmed her stance as a TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminist). This term highlights the contradiction in claiming to champion women’s rights while excluding transgender women from the conversation.
Rowling’s position demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of gender. The fact is, sex is not strictly binary and many people recognize that gender exists on a spectrum. Acknowledging same-sex love and marriage means nothing if one fails to understand that love transcends biological assumptions about gender.
Coming to terms with the shortcomings of those we admire can be difficult. It forces us to reconsider the values we uphold and whom we choose to support. An open-minded parent doesn’t merely preach equality; they actively include discussions about gender nonconforming, gay, and trans individuals. Politicians cannot claim to represent all citizens if they support policies that discriminate against LGBTQIA+ individuals. Likewise, religious groups that exclude queer individuals contradict their messages of love and acceptance.
Feminism and kindness lose their meaning if they fail to encompass all genders, especially transgender and nonbinary individuals. As we raise strong girls and boys, we must acknowledge that strength can manifest in various identities and expressions, and that Jesus and acceptance of the queer community can coexist.
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In conclusion, the conversation surrounding gender identity and expression is crucial, and it’s vital that we foster environments free from exclusion.