Parenting
Indulge Yourself (In Moderation)
I’m excited because my daughter is eager to help me with chores in exchange for extra screen time. It’s a win-win scenario!
Recently, we enjoyed an episode of the series Townspersons from Season Four. In this episode, two characters, Max and Lisa, partake in their annual “Indulge Yourself!” day, where they devote the entire day to pampering themselves.
Surprisingly, there’s a technique to effectively “indulging yourself.” Before they set off, Lisa suggests that they invite their colleague, Jake, to join in their day of indulgence. She remarks, “He really looks like he could use a break. He’s like a thin rubber band ready to snap.” This observation rings true: individuals who deprive themselves of treats often become tense, fatigued, and irritable.
However, Max responds (a line I particularly enjoy), “There’s no way Jake can keep up with our pace.”
Max and Lisa indulge in extravagant purchases and grant each other permission to splurge, which might not be the best approach. A key principle of adult life is to ensure that what we do to uplift our spirits doesn’t lead to feelings of regret or discomfort later.
As the episode progresses, it becomes evident that “Indulge Yourself” day is about enjoyment—two friends sharing experiences and engaging in their favorite activities. As Lisa sings, “It’s the best day of the year!” They cherish this time together and have established traditions, which likely matter more than the expensive items or spa treatments they enjoy.
I would love to organize an “Indulge Yourself” day with a friend, filled with wholesome treats all in one fantastic day.
In fact, when it comes to maintaining our positive habits, the concept of indulgence becomes a vital tool in the habit transformation toolbox. By treating ourselves well, we find it easier to hold ourselves accountable. For instance, after going on a fun outing with a friend, I feel more motivated to stick to my fitness routine.
When we perceive a lack of treats in our lives, we often resort to justifications like “I’ve earned this,” “I deserve it,” or “I need this,” which can undermine our positive habits. However, when we allow ourselves healthy indulgences, we are less likely to seek out unhealthy justifications for our choices.
In my recent book, Better Than Before, I delve into the delightful strategy of indulgence and the amusing tactic of identifying justifications for our actions. It’s all about understanding how we form and break habits. Sign up here to be notified when it goes on sale.
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Summary
The article discusses the importance of treating oneself in moderation, using the example of characters from a TV show. It emphasizes that indulgence should be about enjoying time with friends rather than excessive spending. The piece highlights how healthy treats can support maintaining good habits and prevent the justifications that lead to breaking them.