Moving to a new city can feel daunting, especially when you leave behind a close-knit community. Two years ago, when I relocated to San Antonio, I faced the challenge of building a new social circle after spending nine years in Chicago. I felt like I was starting over, much like dating—meeting potential friends through the PTA or neighborhood events, and peeling back layers of connection to see who fit into my life.
It was during my first year here that I met Jenna at a PTA gathering. Our initial interactions were filled with typical small talk, a mere surface-level acquaintance. However, everything changed that summer when our kids joined the same swim team. As we sat at the pool night after night, I noticed Jenna’s unwavering dedication to ensuring everyone felt included.
“Hey, Sarah! What are you doing all the way back there?” she called out to a mom sitting alone. “Come and join us! Everyone, this is Sarah—her daughter is starting second grade too.” Jenna’s enthusiasm to welcome others was nothing short of inspiring.
Jenna is undoubtedly one of the most inclusive individuals I’ve ever encountered. She strikes up conversations with nearby tables at events and brings new friends to join our group, breaking down barriers effortlessly.
Many discussions around motherhood touch on the theme of inclusivity, highlighting how some women often feel excluded or long for invitations to playdates or girls’ trips. The social dynamics we face in adulthood echo those from childhood. Jenna, who endured bullying growing up, chose to transform her painful experiences into a mission of kindness and support.
“Second grade was tough for me,” she shared. “I was held back in reading, and I knocked out my front tooth. Friends turned into bullies, calling me names and making fun of me. That was when I first felt like an outsider.” Instead of allowing that to define her, Jenna embraced a fresh start when she switched schools before high school.
“I realized it was my chance to rewrite my narrative,” she explained. “I wanted to ensure others didn’t feel the way I did.” This mindset has carried through into her motherhood journey. Jenna believes that finding your tribe takes exploration. “We tried out various activities, from playgroups to dance classes. Ultimately, we found our people among the swim families,” she recalled. “Friendships should come naturally; if you find yourself struggling too much, it might not be the right fit.”
Despite her own insecurities, Jenna remains conscious of the struggles others face too. As kids head back to school, it’s a perfect time for us moms to model kindness and inclusivity. “The best way to spark a new friendship? Just smile and introduce yourself,” she advised. “A friendly smile can ease someone’s anxiety about making new connections.”
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In summary, embracing inclusivity can transform our experiences as mothers and help create a supportive community. By fostering connections and being mindful of others’ feelings, we can make a difference in our social circles.