Hey there, can we please move past the insincere concern for others’ health? I’m not talking about authentic care—everyone deserves a community that supports them and offers honest feedback, even when it’s tough. That’s what real love and connection are about.
But honestly, I’m just tired of strangers weighing in on my body and health. This scrutiny often falls on me because of my size. People in larger bodies face this kind of judgment frequently, but it doesn’t stop there. Anyone can encounter this patronizing faux-concern that comes from nowhere. Regardless of body shape or size, no one should feel compelled to listen to a random person’s unsolicited opinion about their health based solely on a fleeting glance.
For me, it’s always about my weight. Throughout my life, I’ve been subjected to an endless stream of critiques about my body. Everyone seems to have a theory about why I am the way I am and how I can “fix” it—as if I were an appliance needing repair rather than a person deserving of acceptance just the way I am. It’s exhausting, to say the least.
Our society seems stuck on viewing fatness as unacceptable. Online and in everyday life, some folks just don’t know when to stop. Sure, blatant cruelty gets under my skin, but it’s the subtler forms of body shaming that can be equally irritating.
You know the type: someone wraps their rude comments in a seemingly kind package. They start with compliments about how smart or attractive I am, then follow up with a list of health concerns based solely on their casual observations, all while claiming they only care about my well-being. Really? A stranger who knows nothing about me is suddenly an expert on my health?
I’d rather hear someone say, “I don’t like your appearance, and I’m choosing to judge you based solely on that.” At least that’s honest! Why would you care about my health when you’re clearly fixated on my size? Your judgment is cloaked in a false sense of concern, but it’s still judgment.
You don’t know my medical history, my activity level, or how I manage my overall health with my doctor. You only see what you want to see, and you clearly think I don’t deserve to be comfortable in my own skin.
Just a heads up: unsolicited opinions about someone else’s body or health? Not okay. Pretending your judgment stems from genuine concern is ridiculous. We’re not clueless; we see through that facade.
Next time you feel the urge to share your “insight” about someone else’s body, pause for a moment. Ask yourself, “Is this any of my business?” Often, the answer will be a resounding no. Instead of critiquing others, why not focus on finding common ground and celebrating our unique qualities? There are many ways to inhabit a body, and you weren’t put here to tell others they’re doing it wrong.
Mind your own business.
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Summary:
The article discusses the frustration of unsolicited health concerns directed at plus-sized individuals. It emphasizes the importance of genuine support over superficial judgments, advocating for respect and acceptance of diverse body types. The author urges readers to consider whether their opinions are truly necessary and encourages a shift towards appreciating individuality rather than critiquing it.