When discussing my body, I refer to myself as fat. It’s the term I prefer—clear, straightforward, and it accurately reflects my experience. I inhabit a body that doesn’t conform to societal standards of thinness. By any measure, I’m fat.
The directness of that label can catch people off guard. Years of diet culture have conditioned us to view “fat” as a derogatory term. In many people’s minds, fat isn’t merely the opposite of thin; it is also equated with being unattractive, unworthy, and unacceptable.
When I describe myself as fat, some assume I see myself as less valuable or attractive, and they often rush to assure me that I’m beautiful. They frequently suggest I use a different, “less offensive” term, often recommending “plus-size” as a substitute. Just recently, a woman told me I should lose my job for using the word fat.
Sigh. Seriously, people? It’s just a word—a tiny, three-letter word. I could opt for a more complex term, but really, why would I? I’m busy, and “fat” conveys my meaning perfectly.
Sure, I occasionally use “plus-size” for variety, but I will continue to embrace the word fat for several reasons. First and foremost, it’s my choice. As an adult, I have the right to define myself as I see fit. If someone prefers not to be called fat, I will respect that, but most people I know who share my experience are comfortable with the term.
The word fat is not inherently negative, nor is being fat. It’s only considered offensive if you think being fat is bad, and I don’t. Society may place a premium on thinness, but I reject that notion. Whether you’re a plus-size individual who embraces their body or someone on a journey toward a smaller frame, your value remains intact. I hope one day society will recognize body size as a mere fact rather than a measure of self-worth. By being open about my body, I contribute to that shift.
Using the term fat also helps me connect with a community. While I’m not affiliated with any specific fat-positive movement, I admire many advocates within the space. I want readers of my work to discover other voices championing body positivity. There are experts in body size psychology, activists pushing for fat-friendly policies, and stylists advocating for larger fashion options. The wealth of information available online often uses the word fat, which is why I choose to do the same.
Moreover, fat has been weaponized against me. By reclaiming it, I disarm those who try to use it against me. If I declare myself fat, we can skip the semantics and dive into more meaningful discussions. Yes, I’m fat. Now let’s address why that bothers you. Let’s confront the biases you may hold about health and lifestyle based on my body size. Engaging in a productive dialogue is impossible if we’re stuck arguing over a three-letter word. The world will label me fat regardless, so why delay the conversation that truly matters?
If the word fat makes you uncomfortable, that’s fine—choose your own descriptors. Call me curvy, plus-size, or whatever term you prefer. Just take a moment to reflect on why the term fat evokes such fear. You might uncover deep-seated biases and fat-phobic ideas. We all possess them, myself included, and they won’t disappear unless we actively confront them.
Unchecked fat-phobia can morph into something truly harmful. The online landscape can be merciless to fat individuals. Just look at the comments on any article related to body size—insults like “land whale” are all too common. Unfortunately, many of those who hurl such insults double down when challenged, leaving me with little choice but to ignore the negativity.
While I strive to maintain my compassion, harsh words regarding my worth or that of my loved ones can sting. I could try to harden my heart, but I refuse to let the cruelty of the world change who I am. Instead, I take ownership of the term “fat” and redefine it on my own terms.
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In summary, I proudly embrace the term fat, seeing it as a means of empowerment and community connection. It allows me to challenge societal norms and engage in deeper discussions about body image and value.